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25 Jun 12 #339028 by stresseduk
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I have the FDR in two weeks and my solicitor has said unless i come up with £1000 she cannot represent me in court. I am dealing with a man who has no morals or feelings towards his family. he wants me with nothing after raisng 3 boy 20, 16, 10. he has a pension of £292,000, on over £50,000 a year plus bonuses.He has had the child benefit for youngest put in his name even tho we have him 50/50. It is now in dispute. I feel like i,m drowning in anxiety and depression. Sorry any advice welcome. I,m going to end up with nothing.

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26 Jun 12 #339305 by LittleMrMike
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I can''t see you ending up with nothing. Very few people exit a marriage with nothing.

Looking at your position, your case seems a strong one.

You have raised three children, two of whom need a home.

You have been a wife, mother and chief cook and bottlewasher for a long time.

He has substantial pension rights.

He has a very adequate income.

All this adds up to a serious claim and throwing even only some of it away for just £1000 makes very little sense.

Can any of your family or friends lend you the money ?

Alternatively you could conduct your own case but I really think it is better that you have representation.

If you can come out of this with spousal maintenance , a good share in the house and a pension in your own right, that seems worth £1000 to me.

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27 Jun 12 #339421 by stresseduk
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Thanks for your reply. Does my eldest son have to accomidate himself at 20. He,s onan apprentiship and does not earn enough to rehouse himself.really worried

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27 Jun 12 #339423 by LittleMrMike
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My inclination is to think that it would be reasonable that his needs for accommodation should be taken into account.

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