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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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01 Jul 12 #340224 by blonde cazza
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I contacted my ex last week to ask about Absolute.
Our Nisi was granted 8th may so our Absolute should be here by now i would of thought.
He said his solicitor has applied for the absolute but couldnt give me a date when...
I have been asking him about absolute for a while now and all i get is yes hes done it.
Should i contact the court to check an application has been put in as i just want this all over so i can get on with my life.
He as never confirmed that hes in agreement to child arrangements to his solicitor or the court...but the whole situation is grinding me down now and i just want closure on it.

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01 Jul 12 #340233 by LittleMrMike
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I can''t see any reason why you can''t ask. If he delays long enough you may be entitled to apply for the the Absolute on your own account. But you''re not there yet.

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01 Jul 12 #340235 by blonde cazza
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Would his solicitor automatically apply for Absolute or would my ex have to approach her to do it.He has said hes put in for absolute befoe Nisi was granted.
Would it also be acceptable for me to say that ive never been informed that he is not in agreement to statement of arrangements.I was told that he should of informed his solicitor or the court that he couldnt do it but hasnt.
I dont want to take child contact to court as it just grinds me down as ive spent a fortune through solictors for him to say he wants contact but doesnt do it and its just wearing me down.
He also stated that he would pay fees proiding i co operate with the divorce but he seems to want everything his own way all the time.

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01 Jul 12 #340264 by hawaythelads
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He has to wait six weeks and one day to apply for the Absolute anyway so that''s about now at best.

look at direct.gov uk it tells you what you want to know
Here it is cut and pasted anyway

What to do when you''ve got your Decree Nisi.

When you have received your Decree Nisi from the court, you can consider applying for a Decree Absolute to end your marriage.
If there are children involved in your divorce, you will also need to have the form D84B. You should have received this at the same time as your Decree Nisi.
The form D84B says that the judge thinks the divorce does not need to be held up over concerns about arrangements for the children.
If you don’t get a form D84B, you will get a form D66 instead. This will show you what the court wants you to do about your arrangements for children so you can get a Decree Absolute.

When to apply for a Decree Absolute

When you can apply for a Decree Absolute depends on whether you or your husband or wife started the divorce
When you can apply for a Decree Absolute depends on whether you or your husband or wife started the divorce.
If you started the divorce
You can apply to the court for a Decree Absolute – but you must wait six weeks and a day after the Decree Nisi was issued.

All the best
HRH x

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01 Jul 12 #340272 by blonde cazza
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Thanks but what do you do if my solicitor had sent a new statement of arrangements for children which he should of stated if he agreed to or not.We have never heard anything from the court to say that he doesnt agree but am having terrible problems with him doing it although as i understand it its not legally binding anyway.
I just want it to be all over with now and to be able to move on with my life as im finding it all very stressful now.

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01 Jul 12 #340282 by hawaythelads
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If the court has sent him the D84B form they think the child arrangements are not a problem on the Petition they have.

As you say the statement of arrangements aren''t really that relevant in the real world.I wouldn''t bother spending any more stress on it.

I think your main problem is you want your ex to do more things and spend more time with your son to free you up.But in law the non resident parent doesn''t have any obligation to see the kid at pre arranged times anyway.

All the best
Pete x

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01 Jul 12 #340295 by blonde cazza
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No not at all Pete...i love having my son i ust feel for him when my ex has stated that he wants to see him more and his his exact words from the solicitor was Is this the only contact my client will get FRI 6pm to Sun 9am...then when it gets to this stage he dont bother....makes no odds to me because i believe im the lucky one who has him everyday...:)

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