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Help!! Struggling with U/B wording/reasons on D8

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06 Jul 12 #341529 by TractorMan
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Hi

Both my wife and I have agreed to an uncontested divorce on grounds of her unreasonable behaviour mainly for one wanting a family and the other not, plus the other main reason of her blocking my career.

I''ve been told by my solicitor this isn''t enough though and I need to provide another 4.

As well as these 2 i''ve put down the other 5 below. Anyone who has been through it - is this enough or the right type of thing?

Reason 3: N has accused me of having an inappropriate relationship with one of my best friends (who is a female), which is completely untrue and has caused significant upset to me and my friend - May 2012

Reason 4: N has shown an unjustified jealousy towards my friends which has caused me considerable distress. As a result, it has been impossible to lead a normal social life with my work colleagues or friends without feeling permanently guilty. March, April 2012 & May 2012

Reason 5: N has frequently indulged in extreme cases of moodiness/silence, which have caused considerable anxiety often retreating to the bedroom and refusing to discuss anything - March 2012, April 2012, May 2012

Reason 6: N has displayed a lack of interest in and affection towards me which has led to me feeling depressed and alone - March 2012, April 2012

Reason 7: N has regularly complained that I use my iPad too much which has made life at home very difficult and has also made me close down my Twitter account through jealousy - March 2012, April 2012, May 2012


Thanks in advance!! :)

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06 Jul 12 #341532 by cookie2
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Yes that is totally enough. If you send these to your solicitor, they can write them up properly for you.

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06 Jul 12 #341538 by TractorMan
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Thanks!

Yes, mine kept going on about I had to make it a "blame" issue?

My wife and I have agreed it will be uncontested, so hopefully that fact along with these reasons will be enough.

We both just want to get on with our lives really!!

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06 Jul 12 #341544 by cookie2
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Yes, using unreasonable behaviour you do have to blame your wife, whether it is uncontested or not. You could not say for example, "we have different views on having children". But you could say "the respondent refuses to have children". The difference is simply in the way it is phrased. A solicitor can make sure it is phrased properly.

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06 Jul 12 #341547 by TractorMan
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It''s me who doesn''t want children, so i''ve said the respondent refuses to accept my desire not to have children!

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06 Jul 12 #341549 by cookie2
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Yes now you''ve got the hang of it :)

You don''t have to accuse her of war crimes, but you do have to say it''s all her fault.

Although that particular one might be a bit tenuous, having children or not is usually the kind of thing that is decided before marriage, so I''m not sure it counts as "unreasonable behaviour"! You''ve given your solicitor plenty of fuel to write up a good Petition without using that one.

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06 Jul 12 #341550 by TractorMan
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Well that''s good to know!! Thanks again for your help/advice.

Will let you know how I get on with the solicitor!

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