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07 Jul 12 #341699 by matthewwatts
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hi, i hope this is in the right place,
well my wife of 18 months is filing for divorce, im in the british army and we have a military house together so nothing major in terms of assests.
i offered her to keep everything in the house she can have it all, i bought her a car whilst we were together and i had my own also bought when we were togeter. ive told her she can have that to, pretty much all ive said im leaving with is my car which is in my name, yet shes determined she wants this to, i have written proof of her stating she just wants to screw me and written proof of me saying she can have everything.
we have 2 small children (hense why im keen for her to keep everything more for the kids than her) but whats the chances of the courts giving her my car also?
she will have to file under irreprable breakdown of the marriage.
any help would be greatly appreciated
oh ive also offered to take on a few grands debt of ours so she doesnt have to worry about it.
and i need the car to see my other kids from an ex relationship.
surely they cant take it? :/

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07 Jul 12 #341704 by maisymoos
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Hi matthew

Firstly divorce would need to be on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour, unless you wait two years and both agree to the grounds of 2 years separation.

Your marriage is short which would often result in what you brought in you take out, your case however is different as you have two young children.

You talk about possessions and cars, but housing needs particularly for the children will be the priority.

You would need to provide more details for wikis to help

Your ages
Length of marriage (including cohabitation)
All Assets
Respective Incomes including benefits
Pensions etc.

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07 Jul 12 #341809 by matthewwatts
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im 27 shes 26
married 18 months co habited for 16
assests only 2 cars one in each others name i paid for both.
i earn around £30,000 a year before deductions
she will have all benefits applicable to a single mum including housing etc
i will have a military pension if i serve the full 22 but that works off percentage based on time married ratio.
have around 2000 worth of debt ive agreed to pay, and my car is outstanding around 7000 which again ive always paid for.
during the marriage i paid for the mjority of everything and want to leave with nothing except my car
oh i would agree to unreasonable behaviour if it meant getting it sorted quicker.
thanks in advance :)
i offered to pay her housing as she has 90 days i said in writing ill pay for it as long as she needs until she gets on her feet as the boys are my priority, her reply was ii want nothing from y ou but i will make this as hard and as expensive as i can :(
ive offered so much and am met with a wall of abuse and hatred everytime,

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08 Jul 12 #341828 by cookie2
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Well she can''t have more than the shirt off your back. If you''ve offered to give her everything except your car then what does she want exactly?? Seems she is just seeing red and not even thinking straight. I would just give her some time. If time does not work then there are steps you can take, but cross that bridge when you come to it.

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08 Jul 12 #341830 by Fiona
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Where will she and the children be housed? For army wives finding a roof to keep over the heads of children because they have to leave army accommodation is a big anxiety.

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08 Jul 12 #341838 by hawaythelads
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If you have £7000 of debt on your car technically the finance company own it not you.
All the best
Pete x

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10 Jul 12 #342216 by matthewwatts
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well she has put her name on the local council but i fear she will have to go in a hostel first, which i do not want my boys to see the inside of :(
i dont know its all very stressful and i just wish she would accept my help :/
i guess i will have to see how it rides out.

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