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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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08 Jul 12 #341896 by stresseduk
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Sorry to bother you all and thanks for your time. I live in the FMH with 3 boys 20. 16,and 10.The youngest sees his father regularly, the other two dont seem interested, as they have seen him being nasty towards me.The house is worth about £180,000 and we owe £50,000.He has a pension CETV of £292,000 and earns over £52,000 plus bonuses per anum. My offer is for him to pay off the mortgage for us to live in the house. I have said if he does this he doesnt need to give me or boys any maintenance and he can keep all his pension.Do you think i,m being unreasonable.

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08 Jul 12 #341904 by hadenoughnow
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We would need to know more to give advice.
What do you earn? What do you get in tax credits etc? How much cm does he pay?
Do you have a pension? Are there any savings, endowments etc to consider? What about debts?
How old are you both?
What are his current living arrangements and future plans?

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08 Jul 12 #341906 by stresseduk
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I get approx £6,000 per annum with wages tax credits etc. He only pays maintenance for one child as he is trying to force the younger one to live with him, by buying him things etc.he had the child benifit cancelled without my knowledge last year for youngest. Him pension as above ,i have none. his earnings as above. I have approx £3,000 debts, idont know his.

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08 Jul 12 #341941 by hadenoughnow
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Where and how is he living? This is important.

You cannot trade off cm against assets.

You do not give ages which are also important.

There are other questions such as how much it would cost to rehouse you and the boys. Is the 20 year old still in education?
Could/should there be an order for sale?

I very much doubt you would get the house outright even if staying there was the sensible option. This may be a case for a mesher order with term sm to cover the mortgage. His share would probably be 30-40% when youngest is 18. I would also expect to see a pension share.

What offers have you received from him?

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