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08 Jul 12 #341934 by stresseduk
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My x as you have gathered is a control freak. He has just knocked at my door and i was in the garden. As i walked through the house he was looking through my lounge window to see if i was in. Would anyone find this intrusive to your privacy. I find him very intimidating and told him i would get an injunction if he continues as on friday evening he just opened my front door as he had brought something for my youngest son.Is it me being awkward or is this wrong.

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08 Jul 12 #341936 by cookie2
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Haven''t you changed the locks?

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08 Jul 12 #341937 by spooky
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Do you both own the house?

If you do I''m afraid that he has the right to come and go as he pleases.

You could ask him to give you a call if he wants to come round but you cannot make him.

At least he knocked!

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08 Jul 12 #341948 by rubytuesday
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A co-owner''s right to entry is not the same as having a right to come and go as he pleases. His legal right to enter the property must be balanced against your right to privacy. Who actually owns the house now you are divorced?

If you find it intrusive in him just opening the door and walking in on a Friday evening, I would internally lock the doors, so he can''t just enter at will. Was Friday night''s incident a one-off or is this something he does regularly?

Threatening injunctions might be seen as an aggressive move, and could escalate matters rather than calm them down. They should only be sought as a last resort.

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08 Jul 12 #341992 by raybird
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hi stressed mine used to do that, let himself in at the begining, then used to come round unanounced, have a wonder round the garden, even used to go in my chicken shed ! and this was after a warning from the police to stay away, so i started to us the back door as the main entrance, as he didnt have a key, kept the front door permanentley locked, when i knew he was around pulled the kitchen blind down and locked the back door, you do have privacy rights stressed, take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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