Dear all
some of you have have in the past offered me invaluable advice and guidance, and wondered if I could prevail on you all once more as I am at a total loss as what to do next.
I have my first hearing coming up on 16 August -
form E''s need to be filed and exchanged by this Thursday,(mine is ready and i am acting for myself) but,
my stbx came to see me yesterday professing that he did not want to go ahead with the divorce and that he still loves me and would like us to try again.
we have been married for 9 years (together nearly 12) in Decemeber 2010 i left him with my 2 children from a former marriage because they did not get along and we had many other problems between us.
it was always my intention to see if us not living together would help the situation (as the children would soon be young adults and expressed a wish to flying to nest)between my children and clear the way for us to sort our differences out.
things just went from bad to worse ''We''had to go on hold as my father in law became very ill and i spent most of my free time helping to nurse him at home but all our efforts was to no avail very sadley he had to be admitted to hospital and shortly thereafter died. This sent stbx over the edge emotionally and i was completely shut out.
earlier this year stbx told me that he wanted to draw a line under our marriage and move on with his life - i suspected he was seeing someone else but he professed that he wasnt.
i have subsequently found out he had been but has been trying to reassure me that nothing happened !
he has called the police on me when i have visted for
FMH to collect my things (apparently for his own safetly in case i tried to say that he had hurt me in some way) !
since April of this year my life has been a complete misery and have gone through very emotion possible and have only just adjusted to the fact that my marriage is over.
I only found out through a third party that he was actually seeing someone and that he had indicated to her that as his solicitors was no longer acting for him and that he needed to deal with the financial matters on his own he was considering taking me back !
now the visit yesterday promising that nothing happened, he will change towards me and that since the death of his father he has been on an emotional roller coaster and unsure how to make it stop until his solicitor droped him.
i cant tell if he is being sincere or not -i know none of you can tell me what i should do but i am hoping that some words of wisdom from you my help me in deciding on what i should do - i still love him dearly but so frighten that if i do agree to give it another go i could end up back as i was in April and i really dont think i would surive that again. Plus i dont want to go through the rest of my life wondering if things would have worked out !
sorry for the long post i just need someone to talk to