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What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.
The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.
A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.
That is exactly what I mean by "don''t play this game". Why do you keep biting? Who cares what kind of questions or allegations she throws at you? If she is not prepared to negotiate amicably then what good is it doing you to respond to all these letters? Simply let a judge sort it out.
Via her solicitor she keeps coming back with new questions and new allegations, only to have them knocked down each time by straight facts.
Well, you''d better change that feeling pretty soon if you want to bring this to an end. Answering these stupid questions and allegations is costing you money and causing you misery. So why do you keep doing it? A definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results...
I''ve by default felt obliged to answer.
I can see why you have so much costs if you write this kind of thing to your solicitor!
"Since she has, from the moment we first met, consistently lied to me, to my family, to my friends, to her employers, to the Family Partnership in Law mediator, and to her own solicitor, inter alia, we have no reason to believe that she will not also lie before the Court and Judge. In consequence we might in the worse case scenario anticipate yet more very costly months of diversionary tactics on her part for so long as she is still permitted to continue to make claims with no concomitant stipulation that she provide incontrovertible evidence to support such claims."
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Online mediation is a convenient and inexpensive way to agree on a fair financial settlement.
This legally binding agreement defines how assets (e.g. properties and pensions) are to be divided.
Support for people who have to go to court to get a fair divorce financial settlement without a solicitor.