I haven''t been on this site few a couple of weeks, but needed some support as DH is moving out in less than 2 weeks, and I have gone to pieces.
I am reading alot of other posts about spousal maintence. My DH doesnt want to pay me anything at all. He earns over 5 times what I do, I have 2 small children and I am not able to work more due to long term health problems. At the moment we are seperating. He will pay something but only until my benefits come through. I am in the process of applying.
It doesnt cease to amaze me what people do when they have left a marriage and family.
My DH hasn''t shopped for years for the main groceries, and wanted help when I went to a shop over the weekend at where he starts to get a home delivery order. He doesnt drive so is unsure how he is going to manage!! He went shopping for bedlinen, but didnt know what tog duvet to get, so he had to come home and ask. He reckons he can manage. LOL.
sorry must dash, have an appointment.
I would very much suggest that he is playing the victim. He had to ask you which tog duvet to get??? What is he, 5 years old? Couldn''t he ask someone in the shop, or just READ the packets, or just buy ANY one?! I don''t even know what tog duvet I have, or what I should have. I think anyone capable of holding down a job that earns 5x yours, is perfectly capable of buying themselves a freaking duvet. He has GOT to be putting this on to make you think he can''t cope.
As for maintenance this would depend on a lot of factors:
1) Your respective ages
2) Ages of any children involved
3) Your respective incomes, and how much benefits you will be getting
5) House value and mortgage amount
6) Any other assets, savings, shares etc
7) Debts and liabilities such as credit cards, loans, etc
Reading your post has made my blood boil, how dare your stbx ask your help to furnish his new love nest!
Is this the same man who has lied, cheated and has a string of women hanging on his every word but is unable to buy a duvet? Unbelievable, what will be his next trick?
Let him get on with it, you look after yourself and stay strong. Pity the next conquest, he needs a mummy that can cook, clean, shop & drive. There must be someone out there that will fit the job description but how long will it last!!!
You will feel up and down when he has gone but you will also feel a sense of relief, do not get drawn into his pathetic little boy lost scam.