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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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20 Jul 12 #344430 by katyjane
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HI blonde cazza,

I understand what youre saying and thanks for replying, but I have tried so hard with my mum but nothing seems to work.

I went to her house on Sunday and she called the police and I was arrested.

I really dont understand why she is being so spiteful, is it because I moved in with my dad? I dont understand how a mum would feel if this happened to her so I cant really relate xx

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20 Jul 12 #344437 by blonde cazza
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Katie thats sad but i thought you said she didnt give you her new address..How did you find it? x

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20 Jul 12 #344438 by katyjane
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Hi blonde cazza, I went to her old house, where I lived before she decided to move and just after I moved in with my dad xx

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20 Jul 12 #344439 by Fiona
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The courts are well used to two versions of the same truth. There is a cliche that *everyone* lies in family cases. Thats why courts base their decisions on factual evidence.

Once stamped by the courts financial settlements are final and cannot usually be changed. But if you applied for a contact order the court might attach a condition to the order that your Mum does the travelling or meets you somewhere, say a local play centre.

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20 Jul 12 #344442 by jonathancj
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Hi kj. Money and children matters are kept separate by the courts. What the court will want to establish is whether it is in your brother''s best interests to see you. In most cases that''s not a big ask! The court will not allow anyone to drag up the finances. This is simply about whether it''s a good idea for your brother to see his sister from time to time

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20 Jul 12 #344444 by Yummy_Mummy
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Hello Katyjane.

It doesn''t matter that you don''t know about legal stuff; many don''t that''s why there are solicitors but you are asking the right questions so you are doing great.

The advice you have been given is solid.

Yes you have every right to see your brother.

Best to contact a solicitor; you will get legal aid and you can use the helpline on here.

I also hope that you have someone that you can speak to about how you are feeling.

I am also wondering that you may be in the middle of your studies and you focus on them (I know you have summer holidays). If necessary make sure you ask for support for yourself.

Whatever has happened between your warring parents, it is very sad that you and your brother have been involved. You should not have been made to read the documents but I am wondering the reason behind it.

Further to finances, you may wish to ask these questions if they affect you and your brother.

Do not forget that you will be 18 soon and you will then have greater power in legal terms.

You are doing really well. It will get sorted so hang in there.
Take Care.
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