advice please!
I have my
Decree Nisi. I can get my Absolute on Friday 10th August. I am worried the ex might try and stop this.
she did not contest the divorce. she left the
marital home after i tried to save the marraige She has recieved half the equity of the house. i let her keep the car as well. Care of our daughter is split. initially i had my daughter 4 days a week but i let my ex keep the child benefit and child tax credit as she has a lower wage than me. This extra money for her gave us an equal income. This all seemed fair.
We then had a big debate of what school our daughter goes to. i won the debate but conceeded that i would have my daughter 3 nights a week, and the ex would have her for 4 nights.
We have both signed the statement of arrangements for children saying that there will be no claim do maintainence as custody is split.
we have both signed a agreement (not it the presence of a solicitor) detailing all our terms, and saying that, as everything is equal there will be no claim to csa. Realistically when i had my daughter for 4 nights i was entitled to this and all the other benefit, but i stuck to our agreement.
yesterday i got a call from csa. potentially i could be made to pay. it would be little money, only £30 a week, as i have her for 3 nights. I''m furious about this. i''ve told the ex that custody will now be 50/50. I 4 nights one week, her 4 nights the next. I will simply return my daughter a day later.
She''s not happy and says she will contact her solicitor to see if everything is correct about finances.
She has an ongoing issue with me because she buys our daughter clothes. even though this is what child benefit and ctc are for! When she left she refused to take any responsibilty for our dog. I knwo the dog is not the same as a child but it cost me £60 every month. I''ve told her 100 times that if she spends more than that on clothes i will pay half the difference. this seems fair, especially as she has the benefits. she dismisses it all.
I''m really worried that if she speak to her solicitor that htey may try and stop the Absolute. do they have grounds to do this? surely there can''t be any more entitlement? she had her money, signed to this affect. we both even sign to say that neither party would claim csa, although i know this isn''t legally binding.
I''m due to get married again. this is why it is so essential. I''m getting married in russia in October. i need this absolute as i need to get it translated. timescales are very tight and any delay would destroy my wedding plans. the ex doesn''t know any of this, and i''m sure she doesn''t understand the absolute is ready next week. But her solicitor may but ideas into her head.
any advice would be appreciated. thanks