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06 Aug 12 #347510 by Now Gone From Wiki
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My STBX left the FMH six weeks ago with my then 11 (now 12) year old son. I am already getting legal advice on contact and have petitioned for divorce with the aim of getting residence.

However, I have a related question regarding our family dog. When the STBX absconded from the FMH (sending me a text message out of the blue to tell me I was dumped after 27 years together) she also left our family dog in the home. He was on his own for up to 8 hours as I had to get home from Belfast to London. This shows a lack of concern for the dog.

I love the dog and am happy to take care of him, along with support from my mother in law (who is horrified at her daughter''s actions).

What, if any, legal steps can she take to try to force me to give up the dog? From the little I have read animals are treated as part of the property and I am therefore under no obligation to provide her with any contact to the dog but wanted to check from the collective expertise here.

Sorry if this appears a frivolous topic but it isn''t meant to be.

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06 Aug 12 #347514 by Action
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I''m curious to know the answer to this, even though my ex hasn''t come after the dog! Is it a pedigree dog and, if so, is it joint names on the kennel club registration? Not sure if it matters but just a thought.

Do you think she will actually want to have the dog herself?

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06 Aug 12 #347517 by Now Gone From Wiki
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Hi,

Ours is a mixed dog (Lab/Springer) and both my son and STBX adore him. Because of the bond between my son and his dog I would say it would go some way toward her getting residence if she had the dog.

I am getting texts that relate to the dog and it suddenly dawned on me that she might be preparing to ''snatch'' him or to make a legal play to get him.

If she snatches him I wanted to know whether I could get her arrested for theft or what I would need to do to protect myself from having him taken lawfully or unlawfully.

I might have to hire a bodyguard for the dog....and I can''t believe I just said that and meant it.

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06 Aug 12 #347518 by Action
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What a horrible thought after everything she has put you through already. I don''t know how I''d have coped with the divorce without my dog.

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06 Aug 12 #347523 by Now Gone From Wiki
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Thanks Action,

Everything is awful about this situation. Dumped by text message, the discovery of evidence that she has been having an affair, a refusal to communicate on any level, hiding my son and now concerns about her ''snatching'' the one thing that remains in my life from ''the time before''.

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06 Aug 12 #347526 by dukey
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For now this is a possestion is nine tenths of the law situation, we don''t really have much firm direction in law regarding pets, the USA has, if the dog is taken the law is fairly simple don''t go into private property to retrieve the dog, or your in the relmes of trespass even burglary.

Not very long ago a couple fighting in the principle registry spent 20k over who would own some fish, even the lawyers complained it was madness, problem is for many pets are part of the family and they will go to war to keep them.

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06 Aug 12 #347528 by Action
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HI again. I''ve followed some of your posts but hadn''t realised that you have discovered evidence of an affair. I am so sorry but perhaps not surprised.

Hopefully someone on here can advise you about the dog soon.

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