Amefbi, I too have followed your posts and appreciate that English may not be your mother tongue: but well done for your fighting spirit and doing all the research you have done!
So as far as I am aware, you were R in previous Petition in 2008, and now are going to the R to this new one? yes, no? I do realise that things are very hard for you right now since your illness started in 2006. Forgive me for saying, but only trying to help, can you not find the funds for a litigation loan, and yes, fully clued up re your m/g as much as I could make sense of it. Some ambiguities in there.....
Do you want my two-pennies? I really think you need professional help. If you are on DLA you may qualify for Legal Aid, new name now though and not free but I should imagine you would get given what you have said.
What do others think? Me, newbie, of just a few weeks, but I think you need to be the P not the R given what you have told us, long marriage 40 years, worked in business, 3 sons of the marriage? Cann they not help you? So seems you are now R under UB - and no, some snippet of comfort, your husband cant just ''say what he likes'', though to get the divorce moving, you are prepared to sign, under you being R under UB with him saying and you accepting ''he likes'' ????? other more experieced Wikis, please step in to give better more advised advice.
Last thing..... why are you yet again a R not the P. Puts you at a disadvantage.
I don''t think I can offer any more support to you than I already have tried to do on this and previous posts.
sts. I really do think you need representation, if there are international aspects to your 40 year marriage, businesses, properties, children of the marriage?
But you have my good wishes and hope it all works out for you. Just trying to help!
Meanwhile, back at the ranch,
I am trying to do my wording for my own D8 under UB. Funny, I reply to so many people, but think I have only ever had the nerve to start my own thread. This is what DV - as in domestic violence not divorce, does to you, but the latter also applies.... you lose your confidence, in both the scenarios....
but thanks to this fantastic site, getting some back some of it..
I am not able to post my UB reasons: hough would love to help others as a template if nothing else. Sadly I am in fear of the man, I am a bit paranoid he will be on here as a ''guest''. And remember victim of DV here, so have to be so cautious by that alone. So I can''t post publicly my UB reasons. Just hope I worded it ok, for judge to pass it. And then starts the whole AR, or Financial Remedy, as now called. Now that''s going to be a nightmare.
When all this is ''over'' though, will post more unguardedly: I do not want to be identified by STBX. Best end here. Said too much as is..
Soul-ruler - you were one of those kind people who either welcomed me on this oh so great site, or answered a post to one of my first posts.
someone like you,imbued with court processes galore, and I hope it gets sorted out eventually for you. I really am in aww to have read your back posts, what you are going through and have done, mostly self- repping too!
Such a basic - but I am a bit scared, and you have been through it all, I think the term is ''respect'' bowing!!!!
ok, I don''t even know if my D8 wording will pass under UB..... I can not post publically..
But that, am about to present my D8 ( told you I was a baby!) But I am self repping, as you do... respect, again! LOL
So how the hell do you get more space on a D8..... I appreciate you pop in an A4 note, thanks to stumbling upon post sent by Dukey.
I am abiding by protocol as to keep it as short as can be, but hey, I need a continutation sheet, and don''t know how to head it, or how it''s referred to on Form D8. Not a book, but due to my hmm, I would chose the adjective, unique situation, I need a continuation page!!!!
I so apprecaite this great site, that so helps all of us. I really am in awe of you though, SR - I have read your posts, clearly still going through it and to be self-repping as well. But you still you pop in here to help newbies like me,
without a - won''t swear, but begins with an F...... clue about simple first hurdle re divorce. I don'' suppose you could write back, could you, and
let me know what is a simple thing - for someone like you!!! Hhow the hell to start a continuation page for UB, on D8 could you?
Many thanks, - sorry Amebi. I have hi-jacked your thread. Ever so sorry, but once I get going, and all that.... sorry though, but you may find some of this helpful..I really do feel so sorry for you, and hope you get yourself sorted: my feelings are though that you really should try to find out ways of employing a solicitor.
I will be posting in Self-Rep shortly, you may want to pop in there and see what I am doing about MPS, the thing that you would like to apply for too?
SR, awesome posts - just read your thing about S37, so helpful to all of us on here, in same boat: I know the title. what it was about, but sadly, have to keep myself constrained at the mo - in what I say. But also very helpful, cheers!
I need to go and get something to eat now, and watch the Olympics.... been on here most of the day..... so fed up of it all.
I think I am still in a state of disbelief, to be honest. Stuff I found out about him over the intervening...
But anyway, hot date with the ironing board now, get a pizza, and watch the diving and Tom Daley on the telly.
I think I have hi-jacked your thread, Am, my apologies! Take care all out there, all who may read this.
Bye - and hug to Am. ( will be posting in self-rep next week if I can finally get the nerve to post my D8, that is! LOL.) Ok, you take care now.