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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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12 Aug 12 #348932 by Kittykatt
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I haven''t written for a while, iv been doing ok, had no contact for about 4 months but am now trying to sort finances. I have been the one processing the divorce and now trying to sort finances, with very little help from my stbx. As a result we have been in contact, I have been trying to resolve to save on solicitors costs and this is proving tough in itself.

However what I am really struggling with at the moment is the impending Absolute, I''m petrified and for the first time in months am a bit of a mess again. Why is it that this bit of paper has this effect, we haven''t lived together for nearly a year and we haven''t been in each others lives for about 5 months but with this looming it''s completely thrown me. How do u deal with it???

Apologies for the random post and thoughts just feel like I need support and although I am very lucky to have great friends and family, suddenly feel very lonely again.

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12 Aug 12 #348934 by cookie2
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The marriage is over already, and has been for a long time. The Absolute is just a piece of paper. I found it a bit of an anti-climax actually.

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12 Aug 12 #348955 by maisymoos
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I agree with Cookie when I received the Absolute it meant nothing I just put it with the rest of my paperwork. The marriage was over anyway the piece of paper was just legalising this it meant nothing to me.

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14 Aug 12 #349523 by Kittykatt
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Thanks guys, appreciate the response x

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15 Aug 12 #349582 by dukey
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Personally i found the Absolute a bit of a relief ok its a piece of paper but it says its all over, CO sealed divorced, the beginning of a new chapter in life.

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15 Aug 12 #349610 by Kittykatt
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I wish I could feel like that Dukey :(

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