Many thanks for your reply Dukey. Yes, by my previous posts on here, I can be a bit verbose at the best of times - though I like to call it friendly and chatty (!) , but have heeded the great advice on here re keeping my UB reasons as succinct and as factual as poss and have culled out unneccessary emotion - well, as much as I am able between the tears!
I am so frightened of him - incidences of DV in the past -and he will react to receiving my Petition. Am seriously thinking of trying to get a non-mol order - just an undertaking that he will keep away from me geographically and desist from sending me nasty emails would be enough - so I don''t need power of arrest attached to it... however, from what I read on this fantastic site, even just getting an Undertaking will still mean I will have to see him for a hearing for this. Think I''d rather put that off until First Appointment when I can ask court staff to keeep us in seperate areas whilst waiting to see the judge.
I have the FM1 since mediator deemed his behaviour so bad there was no point in
mediation. ( I showed her documentary evidence - if that helps anyone else out there in same boat where mediation is not an option!
Anyway, I am rambling on - yet again - I appreciate your advice, Dukey. This site has been invaluable to me as a LIP and up the creek with out a paddle.... he has been dissapating marital assets too, both throughout the marriage and definately since our seperation, but how to prove? No chance, though am awaare of S37, but unless one knows where he has stashed the - er, OUR money, what is the point? This man had at least 8 bank accounts back then, made himself voluntarily unemployed as soon as he got whiff that divorce was on the cards....
But hey, one day at a time - for now, I just need to get my D8 submitted, for the relief that it will be court-timetabled will be immense.
Will go quiet for a few hours now, to work on trying to re word my UB reasons to an acceptable level so it does fit in the box - at this stage the standard of his behaviour only needs to be ''enough'', after all! When I do my Form A, I may have my chance to say a bit more and how he effected my health, etc etc..
But I so appreciate the fast response, Dukey and to any others who may reply after this.
Right, off to do battle with my D8 then! Thanks again! Great site!