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15 Aug 12 #349667 by amefbi
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We all know our emotions changes on daily basis, its ''fight or flight'' and difficult to get the middle line.

Yesterday I blew my top and now Im sitting here all alone and laughing my head off, so loud the dog''s staring at me.

I received the Draft Petition yesterday, have to sign and send marriage cert to his sols.

He did threaten me that he is going to cut gas/elec/ phone and internet..(yeah whatever I did not respond)

I just realised he is moving in 2 weeks into a flat. He will defo leave without giving me money for food...and then I began laughing as I could see myself knocking on neighbours doors for help, or see myself in a que at ''Soup Kitchen'' of St Johns.

But on a serious note..this can happen to me. No friends of family to support me.
I cant file for MPS before Petition not filed to court, maybee next week done, and then it can take some time as well.

Any advice who I contact if needed to if it so happens that I dont have food etc. while this divorce is ongoing.

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15 Aug 12 #349679 by cookie2
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Contact the CAB, see if you''re entitled to any benefits.

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15 Aug 12 #349694 by amefbi
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Yes I will be but it takes time and I am still ''''married''''.

I made a claim for E&A in Jan 2012, under Special Circumstances, never heard anything, again filed a claim giving all info on normal big form and said please I need urgent help, in April, Call them in June as no reply on 1st ESA3 I believe it was. Was told O sorry I will see to this immediately, thats 2mths ago. (Jan-Aug ??)

Just received the dreadful DLA form as well this week. After waiting 10 weeks of the 11 weeks I have to wait before I contact them after sending forms off to them as well. By the time I get this form in, another few weeks and then told ''if you dont hear from us in 11 weeks, give a call.

I will go to CAB to help me because this is really to stressful for me, But then I got his sols letter to Petition me, so this divorce info is keeping me busy.

The GP wants to see me the Pain clinic refered me to Neurologist and brain scan has to be done. My GP for yrs went on pension in April I have to see new GP, and even that is stressing me to much.

My main concern is now to get this Divorce going and I can claim MPS then.

Anyhow my mind is just as meshed up as my life.

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15 Aug 12 #349701 by Elphie
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Not sure what benefits you are entitled to, but you can claims benefits as a single person. I have done since the day my stbx left our house, you don''t have to be divorced or have any official documents to show you are separated.

Also, entitled to do a good website that shows what benefits you are entitled to if you aren''t sure, it does take a long time to come through, but I think quicker than it takes to apply for sm so you need to be focusing on applying for benefits now, especially if you have absolutely no money coming in.

Also, if your claim for sm goes to court, the judge might reasonably expect you to have already looking into and applied for any sources of income that you are entitled to.

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15 Aug 12 #349723 by amefbi
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Thx for your reply. I have been trying since last year, and actually since 2009. was denied because of his income, but my NI credits?? was paid for while but Ive paid no taxes in last 2yrs I believe it was.
This was the time when I wanted divorce and finding a way to be able to support myself.

And then since Nov2011 and finally in Jan 2012 I again applied for Special circumstances, we were in same house, different bedrooms etc, was told ''''they'''' will come to my house to investigate. Called them 6mths on and 8 mths (Aug) still no answer. I know in the end I will get some help. Ive always been so anti-benifits, but I dont have another choice.

I now have evidence of the divorce proceedings and him moving out it might happen much quicker, but I will defo go to CAB, and not do this on my own. I will be standing in the que next week to see them.

My DLA was £400 in 2009-2011,new claim denied, even if Im 10times worse, appealed via Welfare Rights, no money from Mar2011 till Jan 2012, was reinstated but at £298. This was very difficult time for me, and I been dealing with them about the amount, and they are taking their time as I explained above. Cant deal with this anymore, seriously.

Just grateful I dont have to worry about kids, only myself and my dog of course.

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