hi my stbx appears to be withdrawing huge amounts of cash from his bank account (in his sole name) (tens of thousands) is there any way to stop this or will he be asked what he has done with it or is that just it?
How near to sorting out the financials out are you? You have to provide a certain amount of months of bank statements so it may be picked up in that, or perhaps if you have any proof of the banlanjceyou could ask for the reduction to be explained and therefore kept within the figures.
Not sure you can stop it as the accoun is not in joint names
Heck I would gather as much evidence as possible re the finances, so if need be you can challenge the fact that the balance has diminished so much. Would you not be better using UB for the reasons for divorce rather than adultery ... Not sure many would admit to the adultery bit.
You should switch to unreasonable behaviour, file the Petition with court ASAP (forget about sending him a draft, he will just ignore it again). If he does not return the D10 within 2 weeks go for process server or deemed service. As soon as you have Nisi, apply to court for Ancillary Relief. This is the only way to set a fixed timetable. If you allow him to drag it out, no doubt he will, and the money will have all simply disappeared. It''s important to show him that you will not be f**ked with!