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24 Aug 12 #351795 by bbl1
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I''m after some advice please. I am expecting my 1st child with my partner who is seperated but not divorced. He has been seperated for 3 years. They have not divorced as his ex lives in the matrimonal home and neither he or she would be able to get a mortgage alone so she would effectively become homeless if they were to divorce. They do have 1 grown up child, but she cares for 2 of her grand children (from a previous marriage) which although not a blood relative he cares about.

My question is about the fact that he intends to give up work/or go part time after the baby is born. To me this is obvious as I earn double his wages and we can live off my wages, but not on his if I became a stay at home mum (which is what I''d prefer). However I am aware that they''ve always agreed that after 5 years they''d divorce as she should have sorted herself one way or another by then. What would be the implications? The only thing''s of value are the house and his pension. He''s told her the house profits are hers although they won''t be much and she can have 50% of the pension. Neither of them will be earning anything if he gives up work. When they were together he earnt £32k, this reduced to £25k through redundancy, we will be seen as dodging trying to pay her?? If so would this be the same if he was the woman??

Thank you

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