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26 Aug 12 #352020 by Elphie
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This ones for the ladies really - but when do you change your name back to your Maiden Name? Am I right in thinking, you can but don''t have to?

I''d be really interested to hear whether you did / didn''t change your name back and what your reasons were. I''m unsure what to do with mine - don''t want the same name as my stbx but don''t want a different name to my kids.

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26 Aug 12 #352023 by NoWhereToTurnl
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Hi Elphie,

Its up to each individual, if they want to go back to their Maiden Name they can but, you can keep your married name. I am still Mrs XYZ. I thought about reverting to my maiden name so I discussed it with my daughter, she said it was upto me but wanted us to have the same surname.
Seven years down the line, still my married name that I have had for 35+ years and it no longer hurts when I hear it.
Best wishes,
NWTT.

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26 Aug 12 #352032 by Boo2u21964
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I hadn''t really thought about it before, but my surname wasn''t something I associated with hi at all....how funny!!
being married at 19, I have owned my married name for longer than my Maiden Name.
When I think of myself I am Mrs G........ and actually thinking about it now....as its such an unusual name it makes me smile to think she(the woman he has married)will not be the only Mrs G!!! for miles :)so Im keeping it...its who I am! and if that irriates him all the better :)x

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26 Aug 12 #352042 by robinson25
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I have also kept my married name. initially as i work in a nursery and all the children know me by mrs s. I thought it would bother me but after 3 years i find it doesnt make any difference to me. I still call myself mrs and have noticed often after putting divorced on forms for car ins etc the mrs gets changed to ms!

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26 Aug 12 #352044 by NoWhereToTurnl
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:)Love it Boo2u, I had never thought about it but I also have a very unusual surname, only 3 in county, me, daughter & ex. He lives with OW he had affair with but not married!

I will smile every time I think about how furious she will feel every time my name is mentioned, you have made my day :)
NWTT ;)

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26 Aug 12 #352047 by Boo2u21964
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The pleasure is all mine :)x

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26 Aug 12 #352050 by flowerofscotland
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Hi Elphie,

I have decided to keep my married name, as it is so much easier when travelling abroad on holiday with the children.

Hope that helps.

Take care for now FoS x

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