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To Ms or not to Ms ...

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27 Aug 12 #352201 by confused 101
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I was reading the surname thread with interest - can''t decide what to do there myself yet ... but .... I was wondering who kept Mrs, who changed to Ms and who reverted to Miss?

I''m beginning not to like Mrs, I''m not yet fully divorced but it doesn''t "feel" right on forms - gives the wrong answer in a way ... but I''m not a big fan of Ms, and Miss feels rather "spinster" !!!

thoughts?

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27 Aug 12 #352203 by leanng
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Well i''ve stuck with Mrs. Ms doesn''t seem right somehow..

But funnily enough my ex... who dislikes the fact i''ve kept my married name...has sent correspondence to my solicitor .. to Ms!! funny what annoys people..

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27 Aug 12 #352221 by Stingrayj
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Hi confused....personally, I hate the term Ms so there is no way I''m going to take that on. I don''t intend to become a Miss again at 54 either. Lump it or like it, he will just have to accept that I will be Mrs .... til they put me in a box and nail down the lid. My Mum has been divorced from my Dad for 33 years and still has the Mrs ... even though she has shared all those years living with someone else

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27 Aug 12 #352224 by rubytuesday
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I too, kept Mrs, even though I reverted to my Maiden Name. I felt that at 30-odd (at the time of divorce), I was too old to be a Miss, and I really don''t like Ms, so the only other option left open to me was to keep Mrs (unless I chose to use Mr, but that might cause a few issues, not to mention raising eyebrows :s)

Its really a matter of personal choice, there is no "rule" as to what, if any, title you should use after divorce.

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28 Aug 12 #352265 by Paula3065
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Oh I just wanted to say this really made me laugh, going through a Divorce myself at the moment and needed that, thank You

I will probably keep my Mrs as like everyone else I do not like Ms or at 41 do not want to revert to Miss. The only problem is if you see someone nice and they see your a Mrs they automatically presume you are Married.

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28 Aug 12 #352338 by confused 101
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Maybe we should start a new title .... XMrs ... or Happier Mrs !!

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28 Aug 12 #352341 by rubytuesday
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confused 101 wrote:

Maybe we should start a new title .... XMrs ... or Happier Mrs !!


Happier Mrs - love it!! :laugh:I might just start using that ;)

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