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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

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29 Aug 12 #352636 by JORD01
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I have had my letter to start divorce proceedings which is great. I have been advised to go to mediation, but have looked into this and still think it is quite expensive. I think me and the ex can come to an agreement (possibly) but seens as though the letter has come from his solicitor, do I contact his solicitor, write a letter to his solicitor saying what my conditions are or does he have to contact his solicitor to get the ball rolling so to speak ?? As with everyone we all want the cheapest option, but the whole thing is stressful. Just want to know how I can get on with it, seens as though he''s on legal aid, so might need a giant shove to do anything about it !!! Id rather be in control of it.

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29 Aug 12 #352638 by WhiteRose
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Hi and Welcome to Wiki ;)

My thoughts are:

My local Solicitor is £180 per hour, mediation is around £90 per hour.

Meeting at a local coffee shop (or neutral territory) may cost £10 worth of over priced coffee for an hour, but after a few meetings may get you a deal.

It all depends - are you both open to negotiation? Are you both willing and able to talk and discuss finances?

If so, go to him directly and see what he says.

Have a read through this:

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/divorce-settlements.html

WR

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29 Aug 12 #352640 by JORD01
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Thank you for that. Maybe having a conversation over coffee couldn''t hurt. I just want to know though can I write to his solicitor even though he''s started the proceedings, or do I have to wait for all the info and requests to come from his solicitor. Don''t want to look silly by writing to his solicitor and making requests.

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29 Aug 12 #352644 by WhiteRose
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Contact your stbx: text, call him or write to him, explain you''d like to try and discuss things between you first before going to mediation. The worst he can do is say ''No, speak to my solicitor''.

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