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A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce
“Our clinical experience leads us to conclude that the actual experience of separation for some couples was the crucible in which these negative views of each other are brewed and crystallized. Couples who experience particularly traumatic separations are prime candidates for generating negative images. Perceived experiences of being suddenly and unexpectedly left; abandoned after secret plotting and planning; left after a secret love affair with another person; left after uncharacteristic, explosive violence--all are separation modes that are typically traumatic and involve inordinate degrees of humiliation, anger, defeat, guilt, and fear, thus setting the stage for what is to come. A radical reconstruction of the identity of the ex-spouse can occur at the time of a traumatic separation. The desperate reactions and counter-reactions to the crisis are likely to crystallize new negative views of each other which subsequently become autonomous of these origins.
These negative images are frequently enhanced and supported by the helping professionals (therapists as well as attorneys) as they try to offer support to their distraught client, only to get inducted into the conflict.” - Impasses of Divorce (1988)