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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


Mediation without a divorce petition

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03 Sep 12 #353559 by amefbi
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Sorry cant give any advise but feel so helpless at times with them dragging their feet.

Mine is:
April letter his Sols he wants divorce.

His Sols send him for mediation and he went in May 1st app but not going back.Its a cheaper way of agreeing on financial issues etc, than costs to Solicitors/courts

July I have only received a draft Petition from his Sols with the UB reasons.

Sept Im still waiting for Petition from court to sign the acknowlegdement.
Dont even know if it was submitted to court and emails his Sols last week to forward me with the case number...no reply.

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03 Sep 12 #353560 by jslgb
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Do you agree to her divorcing you? Technically if she hasnt begun the process for whatever reason you could try and Petition her first if your looking to get the ball rolling sooner rather than later.

The delay will probably be her legal aid certificate then if she has made steps to begin the process.

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03 Sep 12 #353582 by AwaitingDivorce
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Io dont want the divorce i think we can sort it, She tells me she knows things would be better in the future and ideally she would want to be with me, but she doesn''t love me and cant see her changing mind, but will give it time ???

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04 Sep 12 #353738 by AwaitingDivorce
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She is now telling em that she will speak with her solicitor to pause/stop the divorce - anyone know if this can be done?

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16 Sep 12 #356215 by AwaitingDivorce
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Finally got the letter from mediation and my soliciotr has received the divorce petition draft. Is a divorce a divorce or do the grounds matter when sorting out the house/money/children?

Do the divorce and the mediation just run side by side?

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16 Sep 12 #356238 by leanng
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the divorce is one thing which your solicitor or yourself can deal with. mediation is the option to try prior to going through solicitors to try sort out children and finances. it is a cheaper option but both parties must want to do it this way otherwise it will not work. read some of the mediation websites. if mediation fails then you have a choice of going through your solicitors to sort finances. if that fails then a financial remedy through court is the final option. Courts expect you to try mediation prior to court but it is not essential.. but a judge may ask you to try it first before court will continue with financial remedy...

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16 Sep 12 #356245 by AwaitingDivorce
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They can run side by side - one doesnt have to be done before the other?

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