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Mental ex

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08 Sep 12 #354700 by Batmole
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I am currently going through a very very acrimoneous divorce, fuelled by my stbx''s greed, bitterness and her parental alienation. She is so jealous of me and my partner (who have been together a year) that her whole life seems to be focused on me and telling my children (who I can only see once a fortnight unfortunatel owing to her behavior) horribly cruel things about my partner. This is massively effecting my partner, who tries so hard with my children, is so amazing with them, yet every fortnight has to listen to my children talk about how their mum has been saying cruel untrue things about her. She has so much love for my children and my youngest adores her, but every fortnight its like her and my brainwashed 9 year old have to start trying to bond all over again. Please someone..tell me things get better. My partner is near breaking point and she is the most amazing woman in the world. I she has put up with so much in this past year and I feel I am on the verge of losing her,despite being close to finalising my divorce (i pray). Does it get easier and how can I stop the constant barrage of rubbish and poison coming from my ex? She talks to the about courts, court orders and solicitors too, there are no boundaries for this womn, despite undertakings on my court order that state she should not behave this way. Will and enforcement order help calm her down? my partner and I just want a peaceful life and to enjoy our contact time...it should be as simple as that!

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09 Sep 12 #354723 by sim5355
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hi!
I Don''t know your story but suspect your troubles are not about just the children(greed,bitter).By the sounds of it she is asking for more money then you want to give.She is not mental just angry do you not think it best to have the children on your own until things settle down.

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09 Sep 12 #354739 by Batmole
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No, my partner and I live together. We are very happy and despite the stress of the divorce, have managed to come through it. It''s just my stbx''s nastiness that puts so much strain on everything. My poor children are used as weapons by her and this is clearly affecting my eldest child badly, I have serious concerns about the impact on her emotional well being.
I just want her to focus on her life without constantly trying to interfere in mine with such premeditated malice.

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09 Sep 12 #354743 by Ekaterine
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Well to be honest, you are saying some pretty awful things about her.

Wife: mental, bitter, jealous, cruel,premeditated malice.

NP: the most amazing loving woman in the world.

Pretty hard to be dismissed as such a worthless specimen of womanhood compared with such a goddess.

You call your wife jealous as if it is an evil trait. Is it not normal to feel a lot of pain and hurt when your husband and father of your children dismisses you like this?

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09 Sep 12 #354748 by mbird
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I think jealousy is normal,BUT etakrine you seem to have missed all the things like poisoning the childrens minds, bad mouthing and talking about court orders in front of the children. If she can''t manage her emotions separately from her children then maybe she needs specialist help?no matter how bitter the feelings, they should not be discussed with or in front of the children. You have no idea the impact this has on a Childs emotio al well bei g!
I understand Batmole and sympathise, have similar situation. Sounds like she can''t move on, not your fault or problem
And like I say Definetly not the childrens.

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09 Sep 12 #354757 by Yummy_Mummy
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Divorce is not an easy thing to go through and everyone''s emotions are raw.

I too think that your ex is just angry.

Children should not be put into the middle of all this; it is difficult and I understand that too. All this will make it harder for the children and they will become confused.


If you really do believe that she is using the children as weapons, I would suggest you note it down. Try to help your children and focus on making them feel better.

She may be finding this difficult and feeling insecure. Perhaps in time all this will settle down.

Hope this helps.

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09 Sep 12 #354764 by Ekaterine
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mbird, yes I do understand how this messes with a child''s emotional well being.I think it would be more helpful to look for solutions rather than assume the wife is evil.

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