Having issues with my ex over contact, most recent was last night.
Had the kids over the weekend (Friday to Sunday), then was flying out on a business trip on Sunday evening. Having had similar issues in the past I don''t normally divulge information on my whereabouts to the ex but in this instance she knew this trip was taking place.
I was due to drop the children off at the FMH at 1800, then leave directly for the airport, my flight was at 2030. I was slightly late (10 mins) but ex was not there. Called her mobile, no answer. We waited until 1900 but still no sign of ex and no answer of voicemails. I knew it was getting tight to make my flight so I had to make the call and take the children back home with me. Ex finally made contact saying she was home at 2030. By this time I had already called my boss to tell him of the situation and that I would miss my flight. The trip was paid for, in advance, by my company.
This is so maddening, my boss was OK with it but many more times and I could be finding me career options limited.
The boys are 9 & 6, and drop off is 1800 Sunday''s, all times set out in contact order which was drawn up in July.
I suppose as I had to keep the boys for an additional night I got a bonus night and got to take them to school this am and meet their new teachers was lovely.
She was definitely trying to throw a spanner into my work trip....when does it end?
Maybe you should to suggest to her that it becomes a norm.
She may have wanted to upset your work trip and make you angry, but if you respond to her that it was fantastic to have the kids that you loved dropping them off at school - you''d like to do this on a regular basis.
What can she come back with? If she allowed it once, there''s no reason not to allow it again (and again)
I think you can turn this into a win/win situation
But do you have back up of friends/family members to help out if you need to go off on a work trip?