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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


Complying with a Cconsent Order

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14 Sep 12 #355809 by soulruler
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Revenge

Do it as it shows you are co-operating. You don''t need to be massively accurate but at the same time not dishonest.

Leave off all the things which are personal to you. Put down anything which is personal to him which is still in the house - bearing in mind he only took his clothes.

Judges have been there and done that. When my ex left it was overnight, he took all his clothes (leaving the ones he didn''t want) he took all our business tools out of our garage and left the garage in one hell of a state leaving all the scraps that he didn''t want to clear out (took me a day with help in the end to sort that out).

He then refused to share any of the furniture (was all very old - all at least 15 years old including the tele).

Then on his open offer he asked for £26,000 to replace the furniture, including claiming for carpets for a house he had no intention of buying (as he was already living with his girlfriend who has a spanking new house full of spanking new carpets and furniture).

Due to the sale of goods act (can''t remember the date of it) furniture over a certain age cannot be sold as it does not comply with regulations on fire etc.

That is why household possession wars are a total waste of time for everyone including the courts.

You do that list and you look reasonable and he looks like a total xxxx.

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14 Sep 12 #355891 by revenge
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All the furniture TVS etc have all been replaced in the last 4 years so he knows what we have. Should I list the 250 screws 400 2 inch nails 20 screwdrivers etc etc, believe me the amount of stuff my husband has collected in tools and bits n bobs is ridiculous, and the best of it is he works in an office! Joking aside it really does annoy me that I have to waste my time doing this when he knows there is enough for us both to share out and have the same amount of furniture. Should I ask him to get a valuation on his personal number plate and his very swanky watch?
I just want to go to sleep and wake up when it''s all over.

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14 Sep 12 #355895 by revenge
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All the furniture TVS etc have all been replaced in the last 4 years so he knows what we have. Should I list the 250 screws 400 2 inch nails 20 screwdrivers etc etc, believe me the amount of stuff my husband has collected in tools and bits n bobs is ridiculous, and the best of it is he works in an office! Joking aside it really does annoy me that I have to waste my time doing this when he knows there is enough for us both to share out and have the same amount of furniture. Should I ask him to get a valuation on his personal number plate and his very swanky watch?
I just want to go to sleep and wake up when it''s all over.

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14 Sep 12 #355898 by soulruler
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Yes you should mention his personalized number plate, list the screws as garage effects.

I know it is petty but then so is he.

My ex husband took off with thousands of pounds worth of golf equipment but then asked me to get valuations for his daughters pony (never told her but in the end it went for meat) and my horse which was so dangerous on the roads due to traffic phobia and 17 at the time.

Anyway, I complied with his request at great expense to me (had to go to a stable yard for a week) and the professional opinion was that my horse due to its age and its dangerous phobia on the road could not be sold and its value was £300.

Fx him.

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14 Sep 12 #355906 by NoWhereToTurnl
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Hi Ladies,
Just to make you smile, my exh at our enforcement of joint lives sm order in June made a huge song and dance about my private no plate, saying I was "profligate"!

Truth be to tell, I had owned it since 1999, it spells one of my dogs and he was fully aware of it. :)

The DJ asked me to explain, I did, as above, I wish you could have seen the ex''s face when I continued by telling the DJ about the ex''s private plate acquired after he went to live with OW!

Ex was cross and denied it, I produced the bill of sale and receipt, what a nasty shock for the poor dear ;)

Our daughter had wanted to get one for his 60th birthday, asked mum to find one and of course because she was at uni & unable to afford it, I paid 2/3.

Guess who had and still is having the last laugh.......ME, he dare not get rid of it because our daughter would be hurt, he can''t confess to what he was trying to prove and he & OW hate it ;););)

Life''s little pleasures!

Like soulruler, I had to have my horses valued, my Arab mare was 40yrs old and I was there the night she was born,

the numberplate and his hatred of it now is one up to Hattie I think.

Stay strong and remember in this instance, "Girl Power"

NWTT xxx

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15 Sep 12 #356025 by MrsSadness
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Dear NTWW, SR, and OP - BOS.

Just catching up! Ho, ho, ho, NWTT, well done you! I would have liked to have seen his face too! Bet that was a picture when you produced receipt! PM you. SR already have.

Back to OP''s post .......

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