I left my ex in 2010. But today I feel like this fight will never be done. I left him because I realised I was paying all the bills to be so miserable I felt more comfortable sitting in the cupboard under the stairs to get away from his ranting.
He wouldn''t leave so I took the kids with me.
He then didn''t pay any of the bills so the house was repossessed sometime ago now.
I try to be reasonable because of the kids but he still continues with the emotional abuse
He is now spreading rumours that I have been suspended from my job. I haven''t and why would be do this? I cancelled my csa claim so I am entirely financially responsible for our kids. Why would he say things that could jeopardise my career?
Sorry for the rant. I am facing rock bottom.
Well I am well used to my ex spreading horrible rumours about me all over - I get them coming in to me and have done for years and years.
One particular one came from a person I had never even met before. We were having a general talk about life as I was in the local pub and this man just walked in with his friend. So I started silly talk about them being strangers and we didn''t talk to strangers - just silly pub talk.
Anyway, after a few minutes of light hearted chat he asked my name and when I said it he looked very shocked and said "Soulruler! Are you the Soulruler who lives just over the road?" Bit shocked I replied yes and then he told me that he knew my ex as he was working on the friends house which he was visiting. Apparently I am a right xxxxx, told me about the things my ex was saying about me.
I have had rumours come back to me for 4 years all pretty prejudicial to my own self employment but in truth there is not much you can do about it.
If he goes to your employer with another allegation that is something else. I think you just have to keep your chin up, try not to get drawn into any discussions regarding your innocence, apart from I havenot lost my job.
He sounds like a world class arse - I used to be married to one of them - why they cannot just stop being bitter and let you and me get on with our lives beats me.