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Frustrated, how long will this go on !

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25 Sep 12 #357799 by upsndowns
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Final Financial Hearing in 2 weeks and as predicted my husband has used delay tactics again. He claims he can''t walk with an aid ( I broke my back and have undergone major spine surgeries. I am in constant pain
but I manage ) i have a couple of questions and would be grateful of any advise.

We objected to the last delay of the FDH in early August and had this noted on file. With the New date in 2 weeks and we have just been informe that he is unwell again and ''immobile'' apparently after returning fom a holiday. he has a GP letter...again. He also is asking for the hearing to be transferred to his local court but knowing the court and the backlog of cases it will be months. He is living in the marital home ( Dom violence on me, I was attacked badly in 2010 and had non mol order etc) he has access to rental income on our investment properties and he has a pension. I live in rent accomodation and support myself on min wages and DLA for mobility problems. Just to add we he has a huge unpaid tax bill for CG on previously owned property racking up interest and penalties.

Question : will the HM Rev put pressure on him to sell the house to pay the bill....? and is there any way the tax people will/ should know about the divorce proceedings and my interest in the matter ?
he has no savings but we owned jointly 2 investment flat and the marital home. I think I am liable for half and happy to pay my part excluding Iint & penalties, because the properties are being treated as joint even though I have nothing in my name. btw we were married 8 years together 16. ( I had a house that was sold and proceeds put into the relationship at the start. )

Also, how long can he keep delaying with health excuses which I know are fake ?
. It seems that whist I have acted in an absolutely excemplary manner, he has not and yet he gets away with it....just as he predicted. It is so very unfair and very depressing, I just want to get on with my life, he made my life terrible before and is doing his best to carry this on and on. It''s not even a question of money and how much as I think its dwindling in any case. I crave fairness. I am also prepared to get surveillance on him to prove he is ok.

I would appreciate any advise but I also quite realistic. It seems I have had to bite my tongue on everything so far and whislt I can understand that there are two sides, to a story, I am viewed as the innocent party as I have fled my home and endured years of known violent abuse. I seem to be fighting for my rights whilst he is still in our home and still seemingly doing ok. Bit on the low side at the moment. I lost my Mum a few weeks ago after a horrible illness and I have a flu virus so it''s not been a very good time lately.

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