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Weird - don''t know what to feel...

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27 Sep 12 #358204 by Dazed
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Well, at lunchtime I pushed the "order now" button for the wikivorce full divorce & Consent Order so at last, my divorce is in progress.

It felt OK, starting the process, but I had butterflies when I was filling in the online form (pathetic really) & kind of felt like it wasn''t me doing it - that someone else was & I was just looking in through a window.

It has been the best part of 4 years since seperation but how does one feel at the start of the formal process? I feel weird & a bit numb - not sad, not happy - just nervous & odd.

The finances were sorted long ago so it''s just a paper exercise now I think. Ex leaving the country in the next 2 weeks so it''s all coming to an end I think. Never thought I would get here tbh, the amount of time it''s taken for him to get his finger out & pay monies across.

A bit of an anti-climax in a way?

Anyone else feel this way?

Dazed x

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27 Sep 12 #358213 by Action
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I think your feelings are quite normal. Sometimes I wake up in the morning having forgotten momentarily the nightmare I have been living. It sounds to me as if you still find the whole experience unreal. Try to think positive and that it is the final stage of a very long and painful journey, that you have survived.

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