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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

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Divorce costs

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28 Sep 12 #358363 by littlebump
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My other half''s wife has filed for divorce stating, qiute frankly, a pack of lies - adultery, etc. Im not too bothered about this, I understand contesting it would be expensive and I am broke. However she is suing me for the costs. I know I can go before the court and explain why I dont think I should pay - SHE had the affair!! - but will this court appeareance cost me? Im trying to avoid solicitors as I really cant aford it. Thank you.

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28 Sep 12 #358366 by somuch2know2
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This would mean she would have to 1. Prove their was an affair 2. acted within 6 months of finding out (i.e filing for divorce) and 3. Make you party to the divorce- which NO solicitor woul ever advise.

I wouldnt fret, it is very unlikely that she will do that

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28 Sep 12 #358368 by littlebump
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Thank you for replying. But wouldnt I have to contest it, for her to have to prove it? It''s bad enough Im being slandered but I really do need to keep these costs down.

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28 Sep 12 #358374 by somuch2know2
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its not your divorce...
You dont have to do anything.

All he has to do is agree to the divorce but disagree the grounds. She would have to do all the leg work trying to prove it (something very hard to do).

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28 Sep 12 #358375 by somuch2know2
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BTW- i filed for divorce on grounds of UB.
She crossed and countered (a waste of time and money) on the grounds I had an affair

I could have fought this as it had been over the 6 month limit before any actions were taken and even then they were mine.

I agreed to it and we went through a very expensive court system. When the Nisi came it had me still as the petitioner- something I kept to myself. We went all the way to FDR and inthe end- the divorce papers (my absolute) have ME as the petitioner and HER as the respondant

There is something gratifying about knowing I divorced her./

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28 Sep 12 #358376 by littlebump
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Neatly picked up, Somuch2know :cheer:Im going through my own divorce, hence the slip - Im forever asking advice. Mine seems relatively simple compared to his (Im the petioner so Ive no experience as a respondent).

So... if he sends the form back denying her claims - which I KNOW are false - then provided he doesnt use a solicitor, it shouldnt costs him anything? He won''t be slammed with her costs?

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28 Sep 12 #358378 by littlebump
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Also...if he refutes the claims, couldnt a judge refuse to allow the divorce? He (and I!!) want the divorce, we just dont see why we should pay for it when she was the reason he left.

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