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Divorce Petition - Unreasonable behaviour

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11 Oct 12 #360461 by bab
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Hi All,

Would like to get some advice from people in the forum.

The fact is, the marriage has broken down irretrievably. We''ve in an unhappy relationship for years.

Someone has to initiate the process and that''s what I did. I don''t want to wait for 2 years. I filed for a divorce petition using the wikivorce managed service.

We have started mediation as well.

Just received a letter from my stbx''s solicitor.

My stbx will not defend the petition if I agree and confirm on 2 points.

1. That your client will not rely upon the allegations of behaviour contained in his divorce petition as proven in connection with proceedings relating to the parties'' son, the parties'' financial and property issues or any other proceedings. This would not prevent your client from trying to prove these allegations afresh.

2. That your client makes no claim for costs against our client in connection with the divorce decree proceedings.


I think point 1 is OK.

For point 2, does it put me at a disadvantage?
I don''t mind paying minor costs such as court fees. Is there any other cost that I should be aware of?

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11 Oct 12 #360465 by dukey
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It is perfectly standard and nothing to worry about, its not a trick, its just how solicitors deal with the matter.

In plain English you are agreeing;

You wont use the reason for divorce to bash him in court, or tell his mum, thats it.

You wont claim court costs from him for the actual divorce, you want it you`ll pay for it, using the wiki service your costs will be very low compared to a high street solicitor.

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11 Oct 12 #360471 by bab
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Thanks, dukey!

I know it doesn''t matter but I am actually the male. :)
Don''t want people to get confused when they search the forum for advice.

Hope we can agree things during mediation. 1st session wasn''t that productive. The mediator couldn''t separate the lies from facts. It was more like a counselling session! I''ve provided feedback to the mediator. Hope she improves next time. Her charge ain''t cheap!

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11 Oct 12 #360473 by dukey
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Err yes sorry about that, for some strange reasons whenever I give examples it''s always she, lazy typing it should be s/he.

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