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15 Oct 12 #361149 by alldone69
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not been on for a while so here is an update, went to court beginning of sept, judge ordered another hearing in nov, wanted exs work history, and income, he turned up with nothing , not surprised though. then out of the blue i received a letter from mediation again, this will be the 2nd one, 1st one i was told that " he was suitable for mediation at this time" never found out why, anyway at the hearing he sat there and didnt acknowledge anyone!! not long later he phoned me to say he was going to screw me for every penny!! Had letter from his solicitor saying that his client mr .... found the whole court process stressful!!! i nearly choked . anyway am again at mediation tomorrow, cant offer original funds to him am now not sure if i have a job at the end of the month !!! if mediation dont work we are back at court again november, will judge take into account that i again have agreed to mediation and hopefully things will be ok. if we cant sort out finances will judge at next hearing decide on whats what, hope this aint too confusing. thanks for your patience in reading this .

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22 Oct 12 #362288 by WhiteRose
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Saw you haven''t had a reply. I''m not an expert, but I''ll give this a go.

Whether via Mediation or Court he will need to supply the correct documentation to enable a discussion/negotiation about a financial division.

Mediation will only work when both parties are open, honest and above all want to reach a conclusion.

With remarks like "screw you for every penny" it doesn''t sound like its going to be a positive experience, but yes, go to Mediation, take your own notes and then you can go back to Court next Month, you can request a penal order for the supporting documentation, also look into a costs order - not knowing all the details, but it seems like he is wasting yours and courts time in not bringing the information required.

Has he made an offer?

Is there any explanation why he is unable to provide the information?

Keep us updated.

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