Hi flowers
I attend 2
mediation meeting with x, usually (or at least in my case) both x & I met with mediator first separately, then they decided that we could attend the meetings together.
2 mediators, very objective wich was good, first one reviewed the children and access & agreed who would divorce who & why etc.
For the second one we were sent away in the first with requirement for finical disclosure, they asked for 3 sets of copies of each & as much info as we could ... Tbh my packs were massive, labled etc etc X''s terrible but heyho. We thrashed out the finances, agreed in principle (signing these packs), both then went away and took these to our solicitors for review.
These made up the
Consent Order & we went from there.
It was harrowing, needed kalms & rescue remedy to get through them, being in the same room with x & in a confrontational type meeting was really hard. However, mediators were great, it really helped with the costs (
mediation costs but it is less than fighting it out with sols / in court).
Try it, it may work for you also. But make sure you (in-yourself) are ready for it, I ended up having to put it off for a few months although we have seen mediators and agreed a date, I just couldn''t face it with everything else that was happening, so postponed - mediators understood, x was less forgiving.
Stay strong JJx