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OMG stbx is now threatening a cross petition!!!

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22 Sep 08 #50402 by Sunshinedays
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My stbx is now threatening a cross petition!!! He's received my divorce petition on unreasonable behaviour and although everything in the petition is the truth HE won't sign the papers. I know he can disagree with the reasons and still sign the petition but he is being as "unreasonable" as possible, ironic really when that's the fact on why I'm divorcing him!!! He's threatened to defend the divorce but the latest is he wants to cross petition!!!!

He won't pay half the divorce costs but has money to throw at defending and cross petitioning???

I know it's all about revenge and he just wants me to spend as much money as possible on the divorce. Is there anyway I can get round all these costs that he seems to want to incur on me???

He's was terrible to me throughout our marriage yet I am the one offering to pay half the divorce costs - but he wants me to pay them all???

When/where will it all end???

Sorry for the rant but I'm pulling my hair out with him! Lucky woman who has him now!!!

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22 Sep 08 #50403 by phoenix1
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I dont know your story but if he is with someone else and you aren't why not just stop the divorce and then wait for 2 years seperation?

He's just trying to either pass the blame onto you or as you say, make you pay as much as possible for it.

If he is with someone and you stopped the divorce it would only be a matter of time before she starts pushing him to get divorced and then the balls in your court?

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22 Sep 08 #50406 by LittleBlue
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If he cross petitions you it will cost him a lot, I speak from experience as I am cross petioning my stbx (but with good reason!) and I know how costly it is.

Most likely he will pay for his legal costs and you will pay for yours (though I don't know your details).

He will first have to answer all the points in your Petition and then do his own petition - he may change his mind when he finds out what it will cost him in legals:huh:

Don't think his new partner will be pleased with him wasting money if all he wants is a divorce.

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22 Sep 08 #50408 by Sunshinedays
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Hi Phoenix,
I am with someone else and so is he. I want him out my life as quickly as possible so I can move on with my life (mentally).

He has always been a very controlling man and this is his last attempt to control me.

His new partner is very young so not in any rush to settle down unlike myself who is 34 yrs old and wanting to start a family with my current partner.

We are soon approaching the 2 year separation but as I understand it he still needs to agree to the divorce so my attitude is the sooner the better.

Sunshinedays.

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22 Sep 08 #50413 by Sunshinedays
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Hi
Thanks for the advice.

His new partner is only in her 20's and very young emotionally - she just see's the house and nice car. She doesn't seem to question things any further, not even why he is witholding some of my personal belongings - long story but legally I can't gain entry into the property to get them back so he wins!

My worry is how much it will cost me for him cross petitioning me. The terrible thing is he has admitted the reason's I have stated in the petition but he doesn't like to be seen as the one in the wrong, I don't think he can even admit it to himself at times. I guess it's just his way of dealing with the guilt.

Surely I can disagree with the points in the cross-petition??? Where will this end???

Sunshinedays.:unsure:

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22 Sep 08 #50414 by phoenix1
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Rock and a hard place springs to mind but to be free mentally is surely priceless?

I like you just wanted out, and I just agreed to everything that was put in front of me to free me and allow my new life to begin.

I'm not sure how much it will cost you must guess Buxtonman maybe able to if he is doing it.

Sorry thats not much help:(

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22 Sep 08 #50419 by Angel557
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My ex threatened to do this to me when he see the petiton , until he heard the cost although i don't think those costs were true what he said, anyway he did sign the papers with a proviso , he'll agree to the divorce but not the allegations.

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