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Amended divorce - unreasonable behaviour

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13 Apr 20 #512100 by Beehappy
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Hi, I'm wondering if anyone can help. I have been going through the divorce process since December. My Decree Nisi has been denied as the court have said that the reason relied on needs more information. It then has details about writing 'amended' in red in certain areas and its all very confusing. Has anyone had to amend before? Can anyone help? I cannot get this wrong again :(

I am divorcing my husband on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour. The problem is, he will not agree to anything major. I honestly just wanted it done so sadly the reasons were likely too vague and mutual sounding. So now I'm stuck! I don't know how to write the unreasonable behaviour as well as getting him to sign again. I'm worried about going through this again with him as it will lead to more unreasonable behaviour. I'm devestated that this has happened and feels like I have wasted all these months and am back at square one. Does anyone have any examples of unreasonable behaviour so I can look at the severity of things as well as language used. Did you need to add dates for example. Sorry for all the questions I'm just in a flap over this now.

Thanks in advance

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23 Apr 20 #512203 by Otter71
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How long before you can go for two years separation rather than unreasonable behaviour?
Would he go for writing about your unreasonable behaviour (however untrue if you will accept it - my ex wrote I am a gaming addict for example - I don't even own a console...) but he was happy to do that but not happy to let me write what I still believe to be the truth about his behaviour.

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25 Apr 20 #512213 by hadenoughnow
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Unreasonable behaviour grounds ideally need to have

A thing he does or does not do
How it makes you feel in general
A specific example from the last six months/six months to separation /continuing.
How it made you feel specifically (emphasise the generality above)


The respondent refuses to join in family activities making me feel unsupported and like a single parent. In January 2020 he would not attend my sister's 40th birthday. I had to go alone with the children which left me feeling sad and isolated.

It is a good idea to agree the grounds between you - or even write them together if you can.

Bear in mind that the Respondent can always state that they agree that the marriage has broken down but they disagree with the reasons given.

The reasons should not be seen by anyone outside the legal process. The basis of the divorce ie unreasonable behaviour is not shown on the final decree. They will have no bearing on any financial settlement.


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