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Sent off D8 what next, who leaves, what shall I do next

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02 Apr 21 - 02 Apr 21 #516365 by George Smiley
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I've just sent off the D8 to the court and not sure what to do next.

I'm a Stay at Home Dad for 4 years and have always been primary carer when I was working, wife is FT employment, 2 kids. I've no income. I'm divorcing her on ground of unreasonable behaviour.

Its taken the sending of the D8 for it to sink in we're getting a divorce on her part. We hardly speak to each other, talking to her is very difficult for me, she always makes things my fault or blow things off (Narcissist, if you know the type). She thinks she god given gift to the world and has a huge sense of entitlement, so predictable she thinks she should stay at home with the kids. I think the opposite, of I've put my time in and her work is always going to come first. I have no problem in getting a job, kids are bit older know 10 and 13

I don't quite know my next steps, do I book mediation and let them try to arbitrate. What do I need for mediation, would we both need to put a list together of our assets?

Should one of us leave the home? I thought about leaving during the process, as I really can't bear to be in her presence, but an online solicitor said this would look bad if I wanted to have custody of the children.

Thanks in advance.

George
Last edit: 02 Apr 21 by wikivorce team. Reason: Just formatting

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02 Apr 21 #516369 by hadenoughnow
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Your next step is to work out between you how things will work in the future. You will need a legally binding financial order once the Decree Nisi is in place.

So where you will each live. How the children will be cared for. What income you can bring in. Whether the house needs to be sold or one can buy the other out etc etc.

That's what mediation can be useful for.

As part of the process you will need to be open and transparent about your finances. It may well help if you can secure employment.

I would agree that moving out unless you really have no option is not a great idea. It is open to her to leave if she doesn't want to stay in the same house.

Have a good look round the site to inform yourself about the process. If you need more help we do have a number of services that you may find useful.

Hadenoughnow

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