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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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Short marriage and financial

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19 May 22 - 19 May 22 #519324 by chief2022
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Any advice greatly received. Married less than a year. Seperated 2 years this December and in middle of what seems endless lawyer tennis match of emails.

Everything is in my name, I bought house, all funds for renovation and pay all bills. Had to get house valued etc at my cost.

She contributed a few thousand through loan from her folks, have already offered her this back through lawyer and has refused!

She hardly worked when we were married (11 months) and I had to help pay her car loan/loan back to her folks on few occasions.

Is she due anything. All I want is left alone in my house with my son to get on with our lives.

She is housed with a permanent home now through council with her 2 kids and gets more in benefits and PIP than I do working! She took what furniture etc she put into the relationship and is actually in a better position now than when we met.
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20 May 22 #519331 by notgettinganywherefast
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How long did you cohabit before marrying? That period will be added to the marriage length so needs to be considered.

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20 May 22 - 20 May 22 #519336 by chief2022
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Hi, thanks for reply. Few months if that.
Was staying at hers on and off while I sold my flat which went in 2/3 months.
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20 May 22 #519338 by notgettinganywherefast
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The general rule of a short marriage is that you leave with what you came with. However if children are involved that goes out the window as their needs will be the priority. It doesn't look like you have children between you but if they lived with you both during the marriage I think the court may count them as such. I am no expert though. It does look like housing need is already met but without knowing more details it will be hard for anyone to comment on a possible outcome. Also as your ex put money into the house they will likely be entitled to something out of it anyway and it could well be more than they put in, depending on increase in equity/market value.

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20 May 22 #519339 by chief2022
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hi, she has basically left with what she came with. No kids between us. She has 2 kids and their needs are taken care of by her and all her benefits, housing!

Have offered her £3k which at a push is money she paid towards a loan albeit I covered most of each month inc all household costs. She has refused the £3k and now getting the "threat of her getting legal aid" through her solicitor. Have paid over £500 to my lawyer as is just pinging emails backwards and forwards and offer is now off the table so I wait....till actually get what her position is.

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20 May 22 #519340 by chief2022
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her council house, she has managed to decorate, carpet and still buy further furniture etc on her benefits which is more than I can afford to do, working.

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20 May 22 #519341 by chief2022
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the "marital pot" when take into account all outstanding debit I have on house re loans, cards and works done its actually in negative equity ... should that make a difference with her trying to get more that what she has put in aka £3k (generous figure)

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