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Hospital visitation rights

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18 May 12 #331454 by chiggers
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Hi all, not been on for a while. Things have definitely improved apart from a year of cancer treatment! Which leads me to a question regarding my ex-wife and my new current partner. My now partner who wasn''t my partner at the time was stopped without my knowledge visiting me in hospital by me ex-wife. My partner is concerned the same could happen again. I have assured her that as my current partner she now would have control and now my ex (who is the mother of my children) has no legal rights over my life. Can anyone clarify this as I am thinking I am correct but not totally sure! Any information will be gratefully received.

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18 May 12 #331463 by Nota
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Sorry about your health.

If your not divorced, I think you''ll find that your wife will be classed and next of kin, therefore your current partner will not have any control. She will be just your partner. If you become an inpatient, I''m sure that if you speak to the Nursing and Medical staff regarding your situtation, they will try to respect your wishes. As for your personal information, they are goverened by the same Data Protection Laws as any other establishment.

I''m sure if I''m wrong, someone will put it right.
However at the end of the day, your health and treatment is paramount.

Hope it helps.

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18 May 12 #331470 by chiggers
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Thanks Nota, yes I have been divorced now for nearly 4 years so really can''t see her having any say. Sure all rights were given up when we divorced? And my health is improving nicely thank you :)

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18 May 12 #331484 by vivi36
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hi,

I went to hospital on Thursday. On check in they asked me to confirm my D.O.B and address. Only as an after thought did I ask who my next to kin was listed as, and it was my x so that was promptly updated. Although I have a very small problem with this as I am PWC so if I snuffed it I do feel that he should be first to know to get the kids.

Then, on the bottom of my pay slip today I was prompted to go onto a HR site and check my details and there he was again. Of course my line managers know my situation but that was also promtly updated because I get alot of death in service benefits.

I''m sure that you would be able to update and do the same.

A year of cancer treatment? does this mean that your on the mend?

xx

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18 May 12 #331485 by NoWhereToTurnl
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As a retired Senior Clinical Nurse Specialist I have experience of this situation. All you need to do is request that it be added to your medical notes that you are divorced and (name) partner is, also that you do not consent to (name) your ex wife being given any information about your treatment, progress or condition. Get well soon.

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18 May 12 #331486 by vivi36
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there we are! professional advise.....thank you nowhere xx

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19 May 12 #331536 by chiggers
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Thank you all for the info, it s very helpful! I am very much on the mend now after stem cell transplant and high dose Chemo at the end of last year but it is a blood cancer that doesn''t really have a cure. It could be dormant for years and by then a cure will be found so that''s good enough for me :)it has raised this issue though of my ex-wife as PWC having the ability to tell my current new partner to leave if I am say for instance unable to say for myself who I want around me. as I say I have tried to reassure my new current partner that this will not happen but I suppose looking at it from her point of view if it did arise then it really would be horrible with everything else going on!

Thanks again all

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