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27 May 12 #333355 by fedup70
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Hi, am after some advice please, i am getting verbal abusive and threatening behaviour from stbx and family, am i entitled to record these conversations and do i have to inform them they are being recorded? may have to use this as evidence( if i could) when it comes to using CAFCASS. Hope i have posted this on correct site, apologies if i have not .

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28 May 12 #333357 by u6c00
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It is legal to record your phone calls for your own personal records without the other person knowing.

It is unlikely that you will get to present them as evidence though. If they do show some serious misconduct which is relevant to the case, the court may permit them to be transcribed and submitted as evidence.

I have looked into this myself and that''s what I''ve found out. One of the other users might know more than me.

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28 May 12 #333359 by u6c00
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Confirmation of the legality can be found here:
www.ofcom.org.uk/static/archive/oftel/co...ice/faqs/prvfaq3.htm

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28 May 12 #333368 by fedup70
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Thankyou for your reply, hopefully these may stop as i have informed them i am recording the conversations xx fingers crossed x

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28 May 12 #333496 by Marshy_
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Hi Fedup... What may be of better benefit is goto the police and report that you are being harrased. They will go and interview them and asked to sign a non harrasment order. Breaching the terms of this order means arrest. These orders do not have much teeth but they usually do the trick in most cases and the harrasment will stop. C.

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29 May 12 #333679 by fedup70
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Thankyou so much, that has put my mind at ease x

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29 May 12 #333686 by rugby333
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Fedup,

I have met countless divorced men and women. I have yet to meet a divorced woman who does not describe her ex husband as bullying and controlling. I have yet to meet a divorced man who does not describe his ex wife as anything other than a money grabbing *****.

Everyone during divorce goes a bit crazy: it is unbelievably stressful. It involves fear, money, change, moving home, children....it is difficult to think of a more stressful set of circumstances in life.

The smart divorcees understand this and let some bad behaviour go, because they understand escalation is bad news.

My advice therefore would be: think very carefully as to whether his behaviour is genuinely threatening or not (given your heightened sensitivities at the moment), before you consider bringing in police etc.

Maybe your best bet is to just ignore it and let him cool down, which in all likelihood he will.

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