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Feeling that things aren''t right

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30 Aug 12 #352894 by richdaniels
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How many have gone through periods where you feel like all your relationships seem off, or not right?

I have been going through this for over a month now. I can spend time with people, including my kids and I come away feeling like things are off. I am the same way at work. It''s almost like I am bracing myself for the next big fallout in my life.

It''s strange, as things in general are fine with everyone in my life. Yet, I can''t shake this feeling.

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30 Aug 12 #352957 by redwine47
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Funny I felt this way for a while, thought it was me becoming paranoid, but realised that I had become less tolerant of certain people re trust behaviour etc & rightly so as realised some people are not as genuine as I thought.

But even though I lost some family & friends through break up, I have gained new & closer relationships to others. :)

You have probably been through a lot and therefore lost some confidence understandably, but trust Urself & ur instincts, you know best.


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31 Aug 12 #353029 by pixy
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I suspect there are two sides to this sort of feeling. Firstly there''s you. You have probably become more suspicious of relationships but at the same time more needy. So secondly there''s a sort of divorce fatigue that sets in with friends and family. They are immensely supportive for a few months then simply don''t understand why you don''t just get over it and move on. And of course you can''t just get over it and move on because you aren''t that shallow.

Take it easy, try to get some new friends, lean on the wikis for emotional support - we know how long it takes and we don''t get tired of offering help.

It really will get better - but nearly as fast as either you or your friends and family want it to.

Take care.

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31 Aug 12 #353033 by julie321
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I too have periods where I feel things are not right, mainly with my two young adult children. I often feel they are hiding things from me but it usually turns out I am wrong. I feel it is not unusual in the circumstances we find ourselve that it is harder to trust people, it changes you too as a person.

Take care.

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31 Aug 12 #353041 by hawaythelads
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Just because I''m paranoid doesn''t mean they''re not out to get me ;)

All the best
HRH xx

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