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18 Sep 12 #356530 by dukey
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Lets take a real life example, my mate, is this coercive behaviour?.

Married 20+ years two kids and a good relationship for the most part i`d say his wife wears the trousers, he works full time earns around £1500 his wife part time a few hundred.

They both have their own bank account and CC always have, he pays all the bills she keeps her money for lady stuff, cloths make up?.

So not that long ago Billy opens a letter, usually he is at work when the post comes, the letter was from his wife`s CC, she owes £8000 and was behind with payments, lots of charges for late payments paying less than the minimum.

Billy had a right fit, shouted swore, he would never put his hands on a woman but even he says he blew his top, since then he insists all her wages go to pay it off, he cut the card up and again insists she never has another, he now uses all his overtime to pay it off, so now the kids miss out, no toys not many trips out that his overtime used to pay for.

Is his behaviour coercive.

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18 Sep 12 #356531 by dukey
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The Govt may well use the word "partner", but given the consultation was ­base­d on a policy called "Ending Violence against Women and Girls".

You lot do know politicians tell us what they think will get votes?, to me they are one step up from pond life.

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18 Sep 12 #356532 by rubytuesday
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Cutting up her credit card would be defined (by the likes of Women''s Aid) as "financial abuse" - I kid you not.

Financial abuse, which is already deemed to be part of the definition of Domestic Violence, is also deemed to be a form of coercive control.

So, under the new definition, the answer would be yes - but in the real world, all Billy is doing is stopping his missus from getting the family further into debt.

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18 Sep 12 #356533 by soulruler
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No, but it could be grounds for him to divorce :)

I am joking btw.

How about this example, woman or man shouts and screams, throws objects around the room, regularly breaks big objects like windows, telephones, stereos, worktops, ceilings, caravans blocks doors so the spouse cannot either enter or leave is that coersive?

bit off topic but can anyone explain to me why the word worktops is in red and underlined? What is the significance of that?

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18 Sep 12 #356534 by rubytuesday
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dukey wrote:


You lot do know politicians tell us what they think will get votes?, to me they are one step up from pond life.


This image my 13yo daughter mocked up says it all (and yes, she really is that cynical)
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18 Sep 12 #356536 by soulruler
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:laugh:Looks like the typical DV abuser to me, help me help me look I am lovely, now I''ve got you son of a b.

We can''t put everyone up on a charge, this is getting ridiculous.

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18 Sep 12 #356537 by u6c00
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Also, as vaguely worded as this is...

If a parent refuses to give his 16 year old child pocket money and insists that he or she goes out and gets a job to pay board, how does that factor in?

What about if the 16 year old is naughty, surely grounding him or her is now off the cards?

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