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18 Sep 12 #356517 by soulruler
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I reckon that is about right despite it being a reality it is extremely difficult to prove and I agree that those who are being victimised mentally often don''t even realise that they are for years and years and then really the only thing to do is walk away.

I would absolutely love to walk away from mental abuse but sadly right now that isn''t possible because despite having walked away (well he left) he keeps coming back and back and back at me so now I am a nervous wreck.

I do think though that it is just really yet another almost impossible task that the Police are being given to undertake.

One good thing possibly is that it makes the reality of mental abuse more of a talking point so maybe people can get out of mentally abusive situations sooner rather than later. Looking back I really wish I had as I knew two years before my Petition that the mental abuse in my marriage was way over the top.

Sad for me because at that time I was too frightened of being on my own (think that is a common worry) and frightened also of the financial implications of divorce.

I think that is a common trap for those in abusive relationships, you loose your confidence in yourself and become more dependent upon your abuser.

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18 Sep 12 #356519 by u6c00
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Article in today''s daily Mail:

Men who bully their partners by verbally abusing them, taking control of their finances or isolating them from friends and family are guilty of domestic violence and could be prosecuted, ministers will say tomorrow.


Spot what I take issue to here?

More journalistic brilliance from the Daily Mail, obviously women aren''t capable of being emotionally abusive.

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18 Sep 12 #356523 by rubytuesday
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Erm, I didn''t write "men who bully their partners..." - that was in the DM article :s

Domestic Violence and emotional abuse are not gender-specific.

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18 Sep 12 #356524 by soulruler
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No we are perfect:S I sort of think that DV on men is a bit worse as men are supposed to be able to stand up to their woman but if they do and things get a bit violent or heated then they can be accused of victimising their wife.

Crappy old world, feeling today like I would like to be off it.:(

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18 Sep 12 #356525 by dukey
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The government use the word partner, the daily mail talk about men, but then they are flogging papers.

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18 Sep 12 #356526 by u6c00
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Sorry Ruby, I know that it was the Daily Mail and not you that wrote that.

I have edited to remove the "Rubytuesday wrote:" part.

Obviously I''m criticising the Daily Mail for twice in the same article suggesting that emotional abuse is perpetrated only by men.

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18 Sep 12 #356528 by rubytuesday
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Tis ok, U6, I was just being pedantic ;)

I''m a bit peeved that the DM haven''t published any of my comments on this article :angry:I even used a spell-check...

If anyone is interested in reading the Wikivorce response to the Home Office consultation on this issue, it''s available here

The Govt may well use the word "partner", but given the consultation was based on a policy called "Ending Violence against Women and Girls".....

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