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21 Nov 12 #367249 by NoWhereToTurnl
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I would wait and let your solicitor contact court after the one that went with you has spoken to him.

Speak to your solicitor Friday, the court will not have the information until a listing date has been issued.

On the issue of SM, remember you have to provide for your children, yourself and housing on a modest income, SM looks very unlikely. Also his housing needs are met, the needs of your children will come first so don''t get pushed or rush into anything.

NWTT x

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21 Nov 12 #367250 by alldone69
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Thankyou so much, i will wait, just a little panicky i guess xxx

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22 Nov 12 #367412 by alldone69
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Well yesterday afternoon i had phone call from my solicitor, she was back in the office early!! anyway i went down to see her and she was also gobsmacked what the judge had suggested. She recapped what was suggested, posiibly half of house and possible spousal payments. right she said, we are not going to do anything yet as regards to any offer and no letters will be sent ot other party!!! she said there will be a different judge at the final hearing and we are going in all guns blazing!!! we are going to get funds available, (just in case) ready on the day and fight mt corner that im the primary carer and i still live in fh and maintain it and always have done!!! we are hoping that the judge will see sense and go more in my favour.! i feel more optimistic this time as i feel this is the first time my solicitor has acutaully realised the situation i am in, all be it going on for 2 years!!! and paying her £8,000!! she now my best friend!! lol ( not) anyway sun is shining and i am just going to wait for date of hearing ! thankyou all for your support and messages xx

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22 Nov 12 #367414 by dukey
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On 21k the take home is around £1300, SM is a none starter, don`t worry about that part.

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22 Nov 12 #367415 by alldone69
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thankyou , i will try not too xx

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22 Nov 12 #367416 by julie321
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Could I ask what salary you need to earn to have to pay SM please?

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22 Nov 12 #367424 by dukey
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There is no definitive number, as a ball park think above £2000 net, bear in mind though if there are kids the CM must be deducted from the net, even then there are lots of considerations.

Think of SM as a bridge into the single life provided by the higher earner to help the lower.

It all comes down to the facts of the case.

If Fred earns £3000 net and his ex Hilda has three kids aged 1-2-3 and has £1000 benefits to live on plus Freds £750 CM Hilda still may need some help, but Fred needs £2000 to pay rent and the bills run his car ect, that leaves a potential of £250 per month that could be used to help Hilda.

Sid on the other hand earns £5500 he`s a solicitor ;)aged 40 and married for 20 years, Agnes his wife is disabled and has been all her life, she has £1000 DLA and bits and bobs, they live in London, Sids mam bought him a house when they split up so he lives mortgage free, they have no kids, Sid is screwed, he is going to end up paying Anges`s reasonable needs for a long time, if Agnes marrys again fine hes off the hook but if not he may end up paying until he retires or his circumstances change.

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