Christmas can be a very difficult time of year for those going through separation, and for those who are parted from their children and loved ones at this time.
If you are not able to spend some time with your children or loved ones this Christmas, be kind to yourself and do something special just for you. If you feel the need for some company, the chat-room is open all day, every day. The build up to Christmas Day is almost over, and Christmas Day itself is just one day to get through. Stay strong.
If you are fortunate enough to spend this time with your children or loved ones - enjoy each and every precious moment.
I wish you and your families a peaceful and joyous Christmas, and hope you all are able to spend at least some of the period with your loved ones,
I am very, very fortunate this year to be spending Christmas surrounded by my family, but I shall never forget the many Christmases spent cruelly excluded. At this time of year I always recall Bob Geldof''s Fatherless Christmas article from 2003; in 9 years little seems to have changed for the better:
"Yet there will be many fathers forbidden by the savagery of our laws to be with their children, standing broken, as I have, outside their old homes, the keys still in their pockets, weeping and whispering goodnight as they watch each child’s bedroom light switch off before turning away, maddened with grief, to the pointlessness of a lonely Christmas Day."
For all those feeling a bit down at this time of year know this, yesterday I ruined dinner, spent two hours fighting with a blocked U bend, and then flooded the kitchen, not with water, oh no that would be far too easy, I did it with, well lets say fluid and solids from a drain that have no place in a kitchen.
Tomorrow ill probably set fire to the house making toast, still it will keep us warm.
Yes Christmas is the happiest time of the year.
Hours of endless fun arguing over when you''ll be seeing the kids.
Having to spend some of the day with your ex in some cases as you grimmace.... sorry grin with the enjoyment of that.
Sitting on your own in a bedsit whilst the other half plays happy families with the new partner in the former marital home or rattling around the family home on your own.
That is exactly the moments that you need His Royal Hawayness''s top tip for surviving Christmas.
DRINK LOADS OF ALCOHOL!!
THE MORE THE MERRIER!!
Happy Chrimbo everyone
All the best
Thanks Ruby, sitting listening to beautiful opera on the radio (not understanding a word) with my room lit with candlelight, completely alone and peaceful ignoring as best as I can that persistent little nub of pain deep inside. I am thankful I am not rushing around worrying about the whole Christmas fuss and work, and knowing that I am so much luckier than those who are already in the midst of rows, ready to send a new crop of damaged hearts here in the new year.
I''m so glad Forseti you have a happy Christmas this year and HRH, you are a wicked delight at any time of the year. Nige Bless you, hope you get back to blighty soon, be great to meet up.