My stbx contacted me yesterday saying he wasn''t happy about something he had seen on our daughters facebook page and asking me to ask her about it by email as her phone is broken, our daughter is 19 and at uni.
I don''t use facebook because I feel it causes trouble. Any way I did contact
her and she said someone else had put it on and she could take it off. However call me suspicious but I thought you could contact people via facebook so why didn''t he do that why drag me into it.
I feel he may be trying to cause trouble between me and my daughter but he is on to a lose there.
Perhaps he contacted you as he knows your daughter refuses to speak to him, and felt that she would ignore any message from him?
If there is a next time, tell him firmly that you are not responsible for what other people post on social networking sites, and he should contact
the person responsible directly. Don''t allow yourself to be piggy-in-the-middle.
My daughter has never refused to speak to him and indeed I let him know her phone was broken so he would not worry if he could not get hold of her. I thought you could
contact people on Facebook anyway so why he involved me I don''t know.
Your advice is spot on though I am not going to be piggy in the middle thank you.
No problem that is ok. The way he is going on though he is alienating them more and more. They are adults and have to make their own way in life you can''t control them forever and he didn''t give a damn what happened when he left us so why he cares now is beyond me.
As you say she is an adult in the eyes of the law - he could
contact her but probably doing it to wind you up. Sounds like my ex never bothered or gave a stuff about our kids when we were married now divorced he''s trying to make out like he''s the worlds best father - unfortunately for him my kids are not stupid and as they say too little too late! I can''t do much either as they''re old enough to make their own decisions - although I still am being punished for some reason and seem to get the blame for everything!
Tell him to take it up with her! Can''t imagine he will though. X
You are right Chocoholic, sounds exactly like my stbx. Trying to wind me up doesn''t work though and why he would want to is beyond me. He is the one who left so what his problem is I don''t know. I will not be mediating again and I think he has got the message on that one.