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24 Jun 13 #398510 by LtMiz
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Just after some feedback, as I''m beginning to think its me!

Kids reside with dad. He always moaning he''s skint and can''t afford to give kids anything more than crisps/ sweets for lunch. He gets tc, cb and csa from me approx 1k month total. His partner gets approx 1k dla & other benefits month and he earns approx 1500 month (as shown on bank statements)

Last night I sent the kids back with sandwiches for lunch today as I had left over cooked meat. Kids excited about getting proper lunch for school.

He decided, in front of kids to throw the sandwich in bin. Won''t say what my 14 yr old daughter called him! Needless to say yet another packet of crisps for lunch only.

Fed up with seeing my kids hungry and eating me out of house n home when they''re with me (don''t begrudge it at all) because they''re not getting fed properly when they with him.

Kids getting fed up hearing ''I''m skint, I can''t afford it'' but he can afford bottle of wine every night for gf. Maybe I''m wrong for thinking this way, but I thought if u had kids, they come first?

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24 Jun 13 #398518 by teecher
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Ummm- why are the kids not with you?
Then you could make sure they''re properly cared for. :unsure:

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24 Jun 13 #398519 by LtMiz
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Long story but he spoilt them rotten leading up to residence hearing n they decided they wanted to live with him (6 yrs ago) lots of lies from all his family, there word against mine. The kids all regret living with him, like they say, I haven''t changed, he has. They realise he only wanted them to hurt me (their words). Just don''t know what to do....

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24 Jun 13 #398535 by Rumplestiltsk1n
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how old are the kids now? If they are older then you could consider another application to court for shared residence. If the court orders a wishing and feelings report, and they are old enough then they could say they want to live with you. Just a thought

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25 Jun 13 #398552 by LtMiz
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They are nearly 16 n 14. My boy is doing his gcse''s and they go to school about 20 miles away and tbh I couldn''t do the school run everyday due to work. Plus I wouldn''t want to put my son through the grief his dad would give him with his exams going on. At least when he is 16 the residence order ends and my son can walk away.

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