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17 Jul 13 #401333 by butterfly crossing
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Desperately in need of some decent sleep, any ideas gratefully received as I seem to be up until midnight and gone, only to wake up at 4 or 5am.

Its affecting everything.

Thank you

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17 Jul 13 #401334 by fairylandtime
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(((Hugs))) sleep is something that doesn''t come easy does it!

On the good side I advise : exercise (walk before bedtime), no tea / coffee after 6 (or lunch), lavender in your bedroom, a tidy bedroom, no TV on, no mess or mass of ironing (like mine now), a meditation tape & technique.

On the bad side (& have done / do all of these) double dose of Nitol, seminax ( to sure on spelling), cold care night tables work well (but without the cold can lead you a bit shakey the next day)! Amatrtonal 10mg taken intermittently for sleep (just taken one as need to sleep tonight!). Oh & for me a mouth guard as I am a teeth grinder too!

No sleep doesn''t come easy, don''t like taking the tablets but sometimes needs must (ie no sleep for the last week). I find that when I wake its best to actually get up as trying to go back to sleep is worse & often end up sleeping in then.

& yes it effects everything & is debilitating - cat nap when you can as this can help boost you, kalms (can help before bed too) or St. John''s wort during the day.

Sorry I cannot be of more help JJx

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17 Jul 13 #401336 by MrsMathsisfun
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Calcium and magnesium tablets taken just before bed time works for me.

Also don''t lie there trying to sleep get up and try again an hour later.

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18 Jul 13 #401337 by elizadoolittle
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Oh dear join the club! I am being driven demented by lack of sleep. I can get to sleep ok but wake after just one hour drenched in sweat and mind racing and spend the rest of the night getting cross about not being able to fall asleep again. I have written two blog posts about this on countlesssilverlinings, and if you check my posts here you will see I started two threads on the subject too, where other people have also made suggestions.

I wish I could tell you the answer but in my case none of the nytol type products, none of the antihistamines and not even heavy duty sleeping pills have touched it. Similarly no relaxation /meditation CDs (I find my mind wanders) no amount of hot milky drinks or baths, no vitamins or minerals, nothing at all has solved the problem for me and eight months down the line I still seem to be surviving on no more than one or two hours sleep a night. I would never have thought it possible but here I am.

Sorry not to be more cheery, but do take a look at some of the suggestions, you never know, one might hit the spot. And if you have any other ideas for me please let me know!!

Ps only real advice I can offer is the observation that alcohol makes it worse, tempting though it is to think it will help.

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18 Jul 13 #401341 by rubytuesday
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This article in the magazine offers tips on sleep - Getting A Good Night''s Sleep

I have used (and still use, on occasions) meditation or binaural music to help me to relax and drift off to sleep. Amazon has lots of very cheap or free downloads - avoid anything with a water/sea background though, as this will just make you want to go to the loo :blink:

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18 Jul 13 #401364 by feelinghelpless
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I find that exercise too close to going to sleep can actually make it worse, try and tire yourself out at say 6/7 in the evening and that might help.

Aren''t babies supposed to sleep better with the hoover or washing machine running? Maybe you could try that.

I second mrsmathsisfun, don''t lie there if you can''t sleep, get up and do something otherwise you''ll worry about not sleeping and make it worse. x

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22 Jul 13 #401759 by Marshy_
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Just like to add one thing to all the excellent advice given thus far: Routine. Establish a time when you retire. Read. No TV and defo no internet. I watch the news before I go to bed. That always makes me sleepy and read in bed. Which is a pain sometimes as I really want to finish the next chapter ;)But routine is all I think. Of course so is the wakeup time. I seem to rise at 05:15 no matter what day it is. But I am an early riser so that suits me. Lots to do. Even at weekends. I am often putting the washing on saturday at 06:00 :)C.

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