I can''t dream at all...I am thankful that my subconscious seems to have shut down as I would not like to re-experience him whilst asleep. That must be very difficult - the unwanted dreams or nightmares. I can understand the difficulty of handing over the final papers Aberdeenmum....perhaps you are having a last dance with your Stbx.
I took my ex back after he had an extra-marital and 3 yrs later we went down the same path but a lot of my friends could not go through the journey again with me a second time which I understand. I wish I had had the guts to have finished it the first time.