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30 Mar 14 #428068 by elizadoolittle
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boo hoo!

I know I said I don''t care, commercial cr*p clinton cards and all that, but I do feel a bit hard done by. I know I can''t expect much from my children, after all they have no money etc and if they did I wouldn''t want them to spend it on me. One brought me a cup of tea in bed and cuddle, one brought a hyacinth in a pot, the other did nothing at all other than say happy mothers day when she saw me, but she is angry with me and making a point I think. I could have done with a bit more pampering, but then I have to recollect that they are hurting too. My son has gone mad cleaning up the kitchen which is nice!

They are too young to eg take me out for lunch or pamper me much, and too angry in the case of one of them. I know I am blessed really - at least I have them close and I know they love me. In spite of everything.

Father''s day will be interesting.

Why am I still giving brain space to my good for nothing X?

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30 Mar 14 #428071 by Hollyxxx
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Hi eliza ,
As you say your children are young, my children are independent have their own houses etc, so not really effected by my split financially as yours are as their money comes from you. but a cup of tea in bed, and oh god your son cleaning the kitchen, that is priceless, son cleaning unheard of!!!:) . your children love you very much, my son would never clean for me, you lucky lady. xxxxxx

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30 Mar 14 #428075 by elizadoolittle
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thank you holly, I know I am very lucky with my children they are perfect and more than I deserve. I wish I were a better mother (as they deserve) and also that they had a dad who was not such an evil pillock xx

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30 Mar 14 #428085 by Nigella19
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Eliza, I think your children have done well showing their love and appreciation.

I don''t put too much store by special ''days''. But I always make sure me and the bub (16 y.o. !!!) have a nice lunch, something really special that we both love. I cook it though, would likely be inedible else !

I like to hear how your days have all gone.

My positive is just that I feel positive. Especially regarding the clearing out. I''ve decided to make it part of me makeover - I am having a life makeover ! Well, it''s all part of how you live and how you feel innit ?

I like the idea of the car boot, but realistically if I wait to have the time available to do that I will never de-clutter. So it will be church bazaar and RSPCA charity shop for my ''objets d''art'', known by some as junk. I did take a pile end of last year, but loads more to go.

And yes, I too have many books. All on line now eh. And cds. Books and cds like alien objects to the boy who I think comes in at the back end of Gen Z. If I give any such thing to him, he holds it in his hand like something prehistoric. It''s all downloaded.

I was reading about Gen Z the other day. Quite scary really the way their brains are wired. The human race is not likely to continue in its present form given the changes technology is making to the brain. We live in a time of fast track evolution of the human species. Whether the species survives is one thing, but it certainly will not survive in the way we know it. Absolutely fascinating study to me.

From clutter to download, I might write a book about that one day. What am I talking about, one day. Exactly how many days do I think I''ve got ! You know I''ve always been a dreamer .... (Eagles - still got it on LP ... and that''s a positive as far as I am concerned, can''t beat the vinyl ;) ).

Nige, BBooming on

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30 Mar 14 #428086 by Nigella19
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Ooooooops.

Just realised I have done a 2 in 1. Responded to this thread and the Something Positive because I had both on me mind.

Praps I''m thinking like a Z''er - in multiples. Me brain''s having a last hurrah.

Or praps it''s just me old cluttered mind.

Anyway I am going to post this onto something positive as well.

Nige at the double.

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31 Mar 14 #428103 by xxx1
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My girls got me a big card and a photot frame which said Me and My Mum on it both from the 99p shop, they also made me a few cards. Then they presented me with a coupon booklet full of promises, like give a cuddle, tidy up their bedroom, carry their own school stuff, etc.

I than had a cup of coffee made for me and a yogurt (after all they are only 11 and 6 lol) and then the eldest helped make a roast dinner (ok it was all things like aunt bessies yorkies and roast potatoes and iceland already sliced roast beef), but to me it was the thought behind it. And they were both fairly nice to each other all day lol.

This was my first Mothers Day as a single parent and I had more fun and love in it than when he was around and I had expectations of getting a present and card and was dissapointed to get money chucked at me and a card that no meaning was put into while he insisted the girls bought his mum a huge card to Nannie happy mothers Day (which is something I dont really believe in, after all she is not the one looking after my kids 24 hours a day)

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31 Mar 14 #428110 by driven40
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Glad you all had a good day me and my little one went to my mums tree and took her some flowers and cards which wd had written on and then I had laminated them then we went for a nice walk in the sunshine with the dog, no coats needed!!!!!! Then home for a Sunday lunch tea when the eldest got home from work

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