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09 Apr 14 #429328 by homargar
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My husband walked out on me 16 months ago. Just left. Never had a discussion about anything. No divorce happening. In limbo. I want to know how long is reasonable to keep his belongings. He walked away without taking a single thing. I have everything personal to him including previous divorce papers for 2 previous marriages which I discovered he was committing adultry, with one divorce naming the co respondent who happened to be his second wife. I have given him every chance to collect them even wrote to his then solicitor who does not act for him anymore. We have no contact whatsoever. I have tried calling but his new woman answers and won''t allow me to speak to him, I havn''t set eyes on him in over a year. He has moved about 60 miles away and don''t know his address. His employers won''t tell me anything. The house is in joint names, he dosn''t pay anything and has left me struggling, therefore I cannot afford to start divorce proceedings.There a re a lot of possesions belonging to his late parents. I''m not in touch with anyone that speaks to him. Even my sister in law who I was close to dosn''t get in touch as she dosn''t want to get involved, probably due to his past and dosn''t want a repeat. Any ideas please. I really want to move on.:dry:

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09 Apr 14 #429337 by WYSPECIAL
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Hi, probably not what you want to hear but if it is the jointly owned matrimonial home then he is entitled to keep his stuff there until after the divorce. Is there a spare room or anywhere you could put the majority so you don''t see it everyday?

You don''t mention assets or incomes or anything but are you claiming all the benefits you are entitled to? You might even be entitled to maintenance from your ex.

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10 Apr 14 #429461 by homargar
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I work full time so not entitled to any benefits. I have stored most of his belongings in the loft. I just feel that after 16 months i should feel free to do what i want with them. He has technically abandoned them the same as he has me.I can''t see a divorce happening as there is no contact.There arn''t a lot of assets just around £50,000 equity in the home. I could be entitled to maintenance from him but I understand it is costly and cannot be applied for unless the divorce has started which it hasn''t.

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